Dr. Jess was recently interviewed by Scott Thompson of CHML Radio about the latest dating trend, LABT: Living Apart But Together. According to research, the number of couples opting to live apart while remaining committed is on the rise and they say they're having their cake and eating it too. But what do you think? We'd love to hear from you!

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Here is what a few of our Facebook friends had to say:

Charmaine (age 42) can't imagine living apart from her husband.

"I have been with my partner for close to 19 years, all but 6 months living in the same home. We are raising 2 children under the age of 6, 1 with special needs. My favourite part of the day is when we fall to bed, after everything has been done and the kids are gone to bed, holding hands and planning our next big adventure. I can see why some couples work better apart, for me, I need him there everyday to help keep me going."

Jenny (age 33) appreciates nights away.

"We got married 6 months ago and we lived...

Whether you’re a soft-lipped or firmed-lip kisser, smooching is key to seduction, romantic attachment and sexual arousal. Unfortunately in long term relationships, we often refrain from kissing and push it aside in favor of other forms of foreplay. This is a shame, as research suggests that kissing is not only good for your health, but also for your relationship. In one study, couples who were instructed to kiss more often reported fewer fights, greater relationship satisfaction, less stress and lower cholesterol. In addition to lowering levels of cortisol (a stress hormone), kissing has also primes the parasympathetic nervous system, which is essential to sexual response. But like most good things, the art of kissing doesn’t always come naturally. So check out following suggestions and techniques to learn a few new tricks designed with your health and love life in mind:

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Lip Lining

Give your honey a peek into your sexual skills as you expertly trace your...

The following is an excerpt from Dr. Jess O’Reilly’s best-seller, Hot Sex Tips, Tricks and Licks, published by Quiver Books. Are you dying to get inside of her and feel her warm folds surround your fingers? Of course you are! Try the Cross My Fingers technique to change things up and explore new ways to satisfy her with your bare hands.

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Positioning: Ask her to get down on her hands and knees in the Doggie position so that you get a great view from behind.

Technique:

• Begin by rubbing her bum and telling her how perfectly round, juicy and tasty it looks from behind. Mmm!
• Cross your index and middle fingers of your dominant hand and apply some lube.
• Insert your crossed fingers into her vagina with your palm facing down.
• Once you’ve inserted all the way up to your second or third finger, rotate your hand clockwise until your palm is facing up and then pull out.
• Start slowly and increase the speed as she gets worked up and keep telling her how much you love...

It can be very difficult to move on in life and in relationships after we’ve experienced betrayal, but there are strategies you can employ to facilitate the process. Read through the suggestions below and feel free to share your own in the comments section:

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Take time to heal. A clean break will make it easier to move on and focus on the positive elements of your own life. Agree not to transition to a friendship immediately after a break-up and avoid making excuses to get together. If you’re a drunk-texter, delete their number from your phone so you won’t be tempted to get in touch during a late-night moment of loneliness.

Sign off of social media You don’t have to close or deactivate your accounts altogether, but you do need a fresh start. Stop following (and analyzing) your ex’s updates and do not use social media platforms as a means of seeking attention or lashing out.

Take the high road It may be tempting to mock, bash or publicly...

Porn in 2013 has become the ubiquitous other woman. The porn debate is intense and complex for many people. I hear people talk about the role they think porn is playing in their sexual lives and I’ve noticed a big pattern where many women feel like it gets in the way of their being able to be intimate with their partners. Maybe that’s true, but I think there are other factors going on that I want to address in this article. We could debate all day long about how pornography depicts unrealistic images of women’s bodies, men’s penises and sex itself, and how that creates all sorts of unrealistic expectations for many people when they actually have a real sexual relationship. Porn is there for entertainment and arousal and it fulfills something in people who watch, otherwise it wouldn’t be a multi-billion dollar industry. But let’s talk about the ideas that many people are attaching to their partner’s love of porn. If you are threatened because...

Trusting a lover is not always easy. We’ve all experienced some form of betrayal and even when we’re trying to mind our own business, news and rumours of sexual infidelity surround us.

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From neighbours and friends to celebrities and politicians, almost every relationship will be tested by the temptation or aftermath of a sexual affair. So how can you learn to trust your partner when you’re seemingly surrounded by marriage breakdowns and cheating spouses? Read on for my top three suggestions and feel free to add your own in the comments below.

1. Understand that supervision doesn’t amount to trust. Some lovers believe that having their partners check-in on a regular basis will affair-proof their relationships. Others try to spend every waking moment together as a form of supervision. The reality is that neither of these approaches works and failing to maintain some degree of independence can actually backfire and wreak havoc on a relationship. If you...

This month is all about Do-It-Yourself and as fantastic as some of the latest homemade crafts and edible gifts may be, I cannot think of a better project to work on with your very own hands than a little self-pleasure.

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With new research suggesting that over 90 percent of men and women have made solo sex a part of their erotic repertoire, there is hope that the days of shame, stigma and shameful hairy palm myths are long gone. Considering that most people will experience their very first orgasm at the hands of...their own hands, it’s a good thing too! Read on for my favourite tips to get the most out of self-love.

Fantasize!

Thinking about someone other than the love of your life during sex is NOT tantamount to cheating. In fact, 84 percent of men and women admit to fantasizing about other partners and research suggests that those who fantasize have the most fulfilling sex lives. So go ahead and let your mind wander a little...

If you don’t know what to...

Why not do something healthy with the one you love? Doing high intensity training like we do in Urban Warrior also boosts testosterone levels.

“A revved up sex drive may also occur from other sympathetic hormones like epinephrine (adrenalin) that make a person more energized, or even opioids like beta-endorphins that can produce a “feel-good” effect. Or it may be that the psychological self-confidence that you get from being physically fit, accomplishing fitness goals (exercising on a regular basis, for example) or simply losing weight boosts your self-esteem and helps you to feel sexier”.

Exercise together and there’s a good chance your sex life is going to rock (good selling point for the boys or randy chicas out there). Don’t be afraid to use this fact to coerce your partners into getting fit with you.

Most couple’s boot camps are about fast food style relationship overhaul, lots of talking and expressing emotions. Here’s a link to...

Kinky Sex 101

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BDSM describes sexual play that involves some exchange of power or pain. B stands for bondage, D stands for dominance and/or discipline, S stands for sadism (pleasure associated with inflicting pain) and/or submission and M stands for masochism (pleasure associated with receiving pain). Sometimes the terms are grouped together in pairs with BD referring to bondage and discipline, DS standing for dominance and submission, and SM referring to sado-masochism.

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While BDSM encompasses a wide range of sexual activities, practitioners tend to play complementary roles that involve some degree of power differentials. However, activities are underscored by the consent of all parties involved and BDSM can be a part of healthy, normal and safer sex play.

Playing out sexual fantasies can be a great way to explore new role-play identities and it is not uncommon for powerful and dominant people to...

The following is an excerpt from Dr. Jess’ best-selling book, Hot Sex Tips, Tricks and Licks.

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Technique #1: Take My Breath Away

Want to get her all hot and primed for an orgasm that tingles all over? Then take a page out of the ancient sex text, The Kama Sutra, and blow oh-so-gentle kisses her way until she’s begging for more. It may be hard to resist putting your wet puckered lips against her glistening skin, but a little bit of teasing can go a long way and it will be well worth it in the end.

Positioning:

Ask her to lie on her stomach in the Face Down, Bum Up! position so that you’re able to get between her thighs.

Technique:

• Get your lips nice and wet so that she can feel the warm moisture approaching her skin.
• Start by blowing gentle kisses all over her left outer foot and ankle bringing your lips as close to her skin as possible without making contact.
• Be sure to let out a gentle breath as you kiss so that she can feel your warmth and desire.
• ...