The following is an excerpt from Dr. Jess O’Reilly’s best-seller, Hot Sex Tips, Tricks and Licks, published by Quiver Books. Are you dying to get inside of her and feel her warm folds surround your fingers? Of course you are! Try the Cross My Fingers technique to change things up and explore new ways to satisfy her with your bare hands.

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Positioning: Ask her to get down on her hands and knees in the Doggie position so that you get a great view from behind.

Technique:

• Begin by rubbing her bum and telling her how perfectly round, juicy and tasty it looks from behind. Mmm!
• Cross your index and middle fingers of your dominant hand and apply some lube.
• Insert your crossed fingers into her vagina with your palm facing down.
• Once you’ve inserted all the way up to your second or third finger, rotate your hand clockwise until your palm is facing up and then pull out.
• Start slowly and increase the speed as she gets worked up and keep telling her how much you love...

Would you like a little spanking?

BDSM describes sexual play that involves some exchange of power or pain. B stands for bondage, D stands for dominance and/or discipline, S stands for sadism (pleasure associated with inflicting pain) and/or submission and M stands for masochism (pleasure associated with receiving pain). Sometimes the terms are grouped together in pairs with BD referring to bondage and discipline, DS standing for dominance and submission, and SM referring to sado-masochism.

While BDSM encompasses a wide range of sexual activities, practitioners tend to play complementary roles that involve some degree of power differentials. However, activities are underscored by the consent of all parties involved and BDSM can be a part of healthy, normal and safer sex play.

Playing out sexual fantasies can be a great way to explore new role-play identities and it is not uncommon for powerful and dominant people to enjoy being submissive during sex play. The desire to engage in...

Orgasms usually involve involuntary muscle spasms, blood flow to the genitals, heightened sensitivity, increased heart rates and hormone release. They may also include ejaculation in both men and women, a visible sex flush and a subsequent state of deep relaxation.

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Though often a highpoint of sexual activity, an orgasm should not necessarily be the primary aim, as goal-oriented sex often cultivates unnecessary pressure that detracts from the overall experience. Each woman experiences orgasms differently and no two orgasmic encounters will ever be the same. Some orgasms feel like a gentle flutter or tickle while others may be described as a tremendous release.

I advise clients to experiment with orgasms on their own to become comfortable with their natural response, which may include an infinite range of facial expressions, gestures, movements, change in breathing patterns, moans, sighs, sounds and emotions. There is no “right” way to orgasm or express orgasmic...