Take Your Sexual Temperature
Sometimes you get so stuck sexually and you are so used to feeling stuck, you have no way to gauge how or why.
I see this a lot with new sex coaching clients and prospects. If a woman has gotten far enough in her process to call me, she at least has some sense that her sexuality needs attention. Sometimes that’s as much as she knows. Figuring out the way into it or how to break it down feels hard and the whole of her sexual issues becomes a series of symptoms with vague ideas of the root causes.
I recently spoke to a woman who described her sexuality as a ball with no handles that just rolls and rolls and she doesn’t know where or how to get a grip on it. I think many people feel this way about sexuality because it’s so big and so many potential issues come up that they do not know where to begin.
You can start by taking your own sexual temperature, so to speak. Look at the various key aspects of your sexuality and if you could literally take your temperature, how...
Real Women Have Real Bodies
I hate putting on a bathing suit. It’s irrational, to some extent, but very real. I am not alone. I don’t know very many women – over the age of 21 anyway – who like to be seen in their bathing suits. It’s scary. It’s the most surefire way to feel badly about yourself. It’s filled with the anxiety of “stacking up,” of being “hot,” of looking how the media tells you that beautiful women look. After all, you NEVER see “normal” women in bathing suit ads, calendars, movies etc….
I’m not an all-encompassing media blamer. There’s more to it than that. We are reflective creatures. Long before we had mirrors and mass media, I’m betting that we looked to the reaction of others to know whether we were beautiful or not. And I’m betting that when someone else got all the attention, we interpreted it as a personal short coming. Even those of us who claim not to.
When my friend...
Make Her Moan With Pleasure!
You may already be a seasoned pro between the sheets, but even an old dog can learn a few new tricks. After all, I’ve been studying human sexuality (formally) for the past twelve years and I learn something new each and every day. Lucky me!
It is my pleasure to share one of my favourite moves, the Pinch N Groove, which receives rave reviews from my clients across the globe…
Begin by riling her up with the Pussy Pocket. This easy move is a great warm-up technique, but it can also be used to take her over the edge as you increase the speed, pressure and grinding. Simply cup your warm hand over her Venus mound pressing your palm against her mound and curling your fingers down over her vulva. Press your fingers against her gradually increasing the intensity by pulsing, rubbing and undulating your entire hand over her most sensitive region.
Once her hips start to thrust and her breath rate increases, have her lean back against the headboard with her legs...
Feeling Sexually Blah? It's Time to Stimulate the Sacral Chakra
Often times, clients come to me (particularly moms) without any ability to connect with their lower abdominals. When an area of our body feels dormant or hard to connect with, this can sometimes mean that that corresponding chakra needs some energy brought into the area. The sacral chakra is about feeling and sexuality and is located right around the lower abs. Visit this site to read more.
Any exercise that helps stimulate the lower abs can be a great way to bring your sexuality back to life and bring new energy into the area, clearing out stagnation.
There are some go to exercises I love for getting these muscle fibres more alive.
To get your started, I'm going to suggest the towel squeeze tail bone lift exercise. Many people who haven't been able to fire these lower tummy muscle fibres find this fool proof! I've had people swear they haven't been able to feel this area work in any exercises or with lots of coaching in the past and finally feel their lower tummies alive again.
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Sex Trends: What To Expect For 2013
Sexting: Last Year
From debate over anti-sexting laws to tragic stories of bullying and harassment, the topic of sexting took centre stage in 2012. And though most news stories focused on the negative fallout associated with sexting, many sex and relationship experts agree that the marriage between sex and technology can actually improve communication and heighten intimacy as long as you practice safer sext.
Love it or hate it, sexting is one trend that is here to stay! With smartphones and tablets at our fingertips and reverse camera displays and filters that ensure we feature only our very best angles, the temptation to snap sexy photos and share them with our admirers will last well into the new year and beyond.
Virginity Auctions: Last Year
From a 22 year-old California student looking to pay for her Master’s degree to a filmmaker documenting the stories of women seeking the highest bidder through viral videos, virginity auctions made headlines across the globe....
Sex In The World Of Comic Books
Sexuality in comics can be seen in the fetish inspired costumes, the racy story lines and the killer curves that are drawn onto the characters.
Sex is everywhere even in comics…now I see the fascination for comic nerds!
You can see fetish inspired costumes on characters such as Cat Woman.
She wears a skin tight leather cat suit that could easily be seen on any working dominatrix. Her claws are made to cause pain and her whip to whip the bad guys into shape.
Catwoman
Her badass, take charge, play no games attitude completely mimics a dom and she oozes confidence and sex. She has been played by some of Hollywood’s sexiest such as Michelle Pfeiffer and Halle Berry and most recently by the gorgeous Anne Hathaway.
Wonder woman is an amazon women who also carries a whip… and a very generous bust line. Wonder woman was one of the first popularized comic book beauties and since her entrance into the comic world she has spawned a new generation of comic vixens.
Wonder...
Sexy Senior's Holiday Gift Guide 2012
By Joan Price
Usually when I write a gift guide for you, I compile the best of the sex toys, books, and other items that I've reviewed all year. This year, I'm spotlighting some fabulous products that I haven't reviewed yet, along with some favorites of the year.
I've tried a few different clitoral arousal gels, and they all provide a bit of a tingle. The new wOw Max O from Wet is a whole different species.
I've been using it for several months, and haven't reviewed it yet only because I can't figure out how to describe the sensation. It's more than a tingle -- almost a sting, but in a lusciously arousing, sexy way. It contains two vasodilators which bring blood to the surface of the skin -- important for arousal and orgasm -- and peppermint creates the more-than-tingly sensation. It feels really, really good. (If you can figure out how to describe the sensation, please let me know.) If you like the idea of extra clitoral arousal, but you want a gentle assist rather than the power...
The Kitty Carpet: The Reusable Downstairs Toupee
Having trouble growing out your pubic hair?
Did you laser everything away and are now having second thoughts?
Want to not-so-subtly nudge your partner into growing her hair out?
Check out the Kitty Carpet: The Reusable Downstairs Toupee! An amazing and amusing holiday gift idea. Laughter is one of the greatest aphrodisiacs!
The Link Between Emotional Challenges and Chronic Pain
I've become more and more interested in somatization as I try to unravel people's physical issues. Before I continue, here's a bit more info.
Somatization disorder is a long-term (chronic) condition in which a person has physical symptoms that involve more than one part of the body, but no physical cause can be found.
The pain and other symptoms people with this disorder feel are real, and are not created or faked on purpose (malingering).
The disorder usually begins before age 30 and occurs more often in women than in men. The disorder is more common in people with irritable bowel syndrome and chronic pain.
In the past, this disorder was thought to be related to emotional stress. The pain was dismissed as being "all in their head."
However, patients who have a somatization disorder seem to experience pain or other symptoms in a way that increases the level of pain. Pain and worry create a cycle that is hard to break.
People who have a history of physical or sexual abuse are more...
How To Keep The Flame Burning Over The Holidays
The holiday season can be a stressful time for many couples, so check out Dr. Jess’ tips to help keep your flame burning as your ring in the new year.
Forego Gift-Giving
Good things may come in small packages, but great things come in the form of our most valuable asset…time. The pressure to choose the perfect gift can detract from the cheer of the season, so trade in time at the mall for quality time spent together.
Take turns planning an intimate date and use these ideas as inspiration:
Go ice skating hand-in-hand.
Hit up the tobogganing hill beneath the stars.
Prepare a private brunch for two.
Indulge in a spa day.
Take a holiday cooking class together.
Snuggle up for an evening of spiked hot cocoa and cheesy holiday movies.
Go snow tubing!
Volunteer at a local soup kitchen or “adopt”’ a child and purchase holiday gifts from their wish list.
“Match” Your Family Time
The holidays usually involve a series of...
