As a student of philosophy, I believe that the Ancient Greeks laid the foundation for the way most of the world thinks today. Their philosophers examined a  vast array of thoughts pertaining to the universals of life including the birds and the bees. 

The erotic dilemma in Ancient Greece reflected the paradoxical nature of érōs. How could affection and love, or érōs, be capable of producing pleasure and kindness while also producing violent obsession and disruptions to the rational mind?

What did ancient Greek philosophers say about this? Some highlighted the importance of loving the person's soul as opposed to their body. Others, like the stoics, saw sexual aspirations as positive in so far as the state of character of the lover was in accordance to their ideal virtue. The two most impactful thinkers and surviving household names, Plato and Aristotle offered a range of insights on the subject. Check out their top ten...

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It is not uncommon for a woman to have trouble visually locating her clitoris, as it is not a body part that most of us learn about from a young age. In fact, you may have discovered its pleasure capacity by accident. If you haven’t had a chance to look at your clitoris, there is no time like the present! After a relaxing shower or bath, sit on your bum with your knees bent, legs spread and feet flat on the bed. Use a hand mirror as you pull up gently on the skin at the top of your inner labia (just below your pubic mound) to reveal your sensitive clitoral head. It is usually round and a bit shiny and protrudes from beneath the hood. Every woman’s body is different so yours may poke out conspicuously or only extend slightly from beneath its hood. Either way, know that you’re beautiful!

From the book of Kimberly (Age 55)

“I didn’t know what it was called until I hit 28! And I never actually looked at it until a...

Excerpted from The New Sex Bible

You’ve probably heard a great deal about the clitoris and you likely already know that it exists solely for the purpose of pleasure. But did you know that the clitoris has legs? And that the complex structure of the clitoris may explain why most women orgasm from rubbing, grinding and pressing on the vulva?

The clitoris is more than just a tiny nodule at the top of where the labia meet. That shiny pearl-like structure, which is often referred to as the clitoris is actually only the head of the clitoris. It also has two legs, two bulbs, foreskin, glands, nerves, blood vessels, a shaft and the capacity to become erect. Once you study the full anatomy of the clitoral complex, you may conclude that the clitoris is much like a penis...only smaller. But when you further examine the deep roots and multiple parts of the inner clitoris, it becomes more obvious that the clitoris isn’t a smaller version of the penis, but simply a variant model.

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Sometimes the Holidays can sneak up on you and you find yourself in the mall, scrambling to find the perfect present for your special someone. Fear not; you are not alone. Don’t let the pressure of the impending holiday get you down. It’s the thought that counts. Consider the following ideas for the person on your nice or naughty list.

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Chocolate

Give the gift of chocolate! Chocolate is a great way to show that you care about someone and many times, it is already packaged for you. Not only is chocolate a great way to sweeten your sweetie’s heart, it is also a great mood enhancer. Chocolate contains the compound PEA (phenylethylamine) which is responsible for releasing the same ‘feel good’ endorphins that happen during sex. Chocolate has come a long way from a humble candy bar. There are so many variations available on the market ranging from distinctly artisanal to sultry and extra dark. Search the internet or visiting your local chocolatier...

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Check out this awesome guide to finding a dildo that's right for you, created by A Woman's Touch. The quiz format makes it extra reader-friendly, and Dr. Myrtle offers some helpful insight on the dildo's many forms and uses.

To help you choose a dildo, answer these questions.

Use your answers to these questions to help you choose a dildo that will best meet your unique need for comfort and desire for pleasure. Although some people choose to share their dildos and cover them with condoms, most people find that they prefer certain shapes or materials and want to have a dildo of their very own. Having TWO or more dildos for different purposes (or partners) is OK, too!

1. How many fingers do you like having inside of you when you’re aroused ?

____ fingers

2. What length would you prefer?

Longer: I want something easy to hold onto, with extra length I can choose whether or not to insert fully.
Medium long: something in the middle is just right.
Shorter: I...

Today, we're expanding our erotic arts and crafts toolkit to include the fine art of naughty knots: Rope Bondage.

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There are several reasons why bondage can be a fun and thrilling addition to one's sex life. For some individuals, bondage is an exercise in trust, as the person being tied up is essentially at their partner's mercy; this might be for the purposes of teasing or (consensually) inflicting pain. BDSM allows us to experiment with power dynamics in our relationships; to feel what it is like to have control, and to relinquish it. Others may simply enjoy the aesthetic of bonds, as rope bondage can also be an art form (such as with the case of the "shibari" rope bondage style associated with Japan).

An awareness of safety precautions as well as an ability to communicate and set boundaries, are critical in ensuring a positive first experience with all types of kink. Check out this comprehensive list of rope bondage tips and tricks from the folks at Venus Envy:

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We here at Sex with Dr. Jess recently became acquainted with Mary Anne Marlow, author of Pursue to Paradise.  Mary has devoted many years of her life to learning Tantric methods of sacred union. Naturally, we wanted Mary Anne's help to introduce you, the readers, to the Lifestyle of Tantra. Here is what she had to share with us:

How did you first come to know the "Lifestyle of Tantra"?

It was well over 10 years ago, while living in the arms of paradise in Costa Rica, where I was introduced to the “Lifestyle of Tantra”. A couple that I regularly provided Aromatherapy massage to owned a B & B Tantra Retreat and together, they were disciplined in the sacred practices of the Eastern Tantra/Tao Philosophies.  One aspect of that lifestyle was exercising healthy intimate meditations of sexual energy.  Following this; I took it upon myself to fine-tune techniques learned through the writings of Mantak Chia & other various masters.

What is the...

Over the years, I’ve written a great deal about dirty talk. From general guidelines to hot phrases you can use to rile your lover up, dirty talk is one of my favourite topics to cover...and put into practice.

In several of my workshops (including Steamy Sex for Couples and Rock his/her World) I ask participants to share what they want to hear in bed via secret ballot. Each person writes down a few things they’d like their lover to say in the heat of the moment and we read them aloud as a group without identifying the source.

The following is an unscientific summary of the most popular lines I’ve collected from thousands of workshop participants.

What men say they want to hear:

“I’m coming!” This line comes up multiple times in every workshop without exception.

“Your penis/cock/dick/wiener is so big.” Yes -- someone actually wrote “wiener”.

“You make me so wet.” More on this here

“You’re the best...

Whether you’re a soft-lipped or firmed-lip kisser, smooching is key to seduction, romantic attachment and sexual arousal. Unfortunately in long term relationships, we often refrain from kissing and push it aside in favor of other forms of foreplay. This is a shame, as research suggests that kissing is not only good for your health, but also for your relationship. In one study, couples who were instructed to kiss more often reported fewer fights, greater relationship satisfaction, less stress and lower cholesterol. In addition to lowering levels of cortisol (a stress hormone), kissing has also primes the parasympathetic nervous system, which is essential to sexual response. But like most good things, the art of kissing doesn’t always come naturally. So check out following suggestions and techniques to learn a few new tricks designed with your health and love life in mind:

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Lip Lining

Give your honey a peek into your sexual skills as you expertly trace your...

The following is an excerpt from Dr. Jess O’Reilly’s best-seller, Hot Sex Tips, Tricks and Licks, published by Quiver Books. Are you dying to get inside of her and feel her warm folds surround your fingers? Of course you are! Try the Cross My Fingers technique to change things up and explore new ways to satisfy her with your bare hands.

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Positioning: Ask her to get down on her hands and knees in the Doggie position so that you get a great view from behind.

Technique:

• Begin by rubbing her bum and telling her how perfectly round, juicy and tasty it looks from behind. Mmm!
• Cross your index and middle fingers of your dominant hand and apply some lube.
• Insert your crossed fingers into her vagina with your palm facing down.
• Once you’ve inserted all the way up to your second or third finger, rotate your hand clockwise until your palm is facing up and then pull out.
• Start slowly and increase the speed as she gets worked up and keep telling her how much you love...