Discovering lube as a grown-up is like discovering what your clit does as a kid. "Who," you think, "was the brilliant mind behind this idea? And why did I not know about this sooner? Why did I memorize the quadratic equation in high school, but not hear a word about this vastly more life-improving substance?" Below you will find an introduction to this lovely stuff.

Because without changing any other single thing that you do in your sex life, you will completely change the feel of most of the things you're already doing. Ever had a hard time coming because the friction of your hand on your clit left you less than excited? Ever been enjoying a nice long round of intercourse only to be stopped short by irritation? Ever ended up with a raw penis after a vigorous jerk-off session? **Ever had a condom break?** Lube, lube, lube, lube.

But not every lube is ideal for every person or every situation. Each lube has a main ingredient, and each has pros and cons. Some lubes are better for anal...

 Durex #TurnOFFtoTurnON Campaign

Durex is encouraging us all to #TurnOFFtoTurnON for Earth Hour on March 29th, in support of our environment – and our relationships.

It seems that couples today spend a lot more time on their devices than they do interacting with their partner. often this takes a toll on our sex lives. If you’re not convinced, take a look at these stats.

• A UK study shows that people are having 20% less sex than they were ten years ago (The Lancet – UK adults between 2000 and 2010)
• 20% of 18-34 year olds in the US have admitted to using their smart phone during sex (Nielsen)
• Canadians spend an average of 7.1 hours of LEISURE time per day on four screens – smart phones, tablets, computers and television (The Multiscreen Canadian, 2013)

This Earth Hour, I enourage you to disconnect your devices and reconnect with your partner. #TurnOFFtoTurnON March 29th.

Dr. Jess was excited to represent PlayboyTV at yet another great event. Not only was Vancouver beautiful, The Taboo Show was filled with excitement, packed seminars, half naked butlers, and a giant cloth vulva! The Hanky Panky Party booth certainly drew a crowd with their beyond-life-size display. Unfortunately we didn't get to snap a picture. (We know, we know. We're sorry!) But we did manage to capture some other great moments, which we've shared with you below. Enjoy!

A gorgeous green building in Vancouver.

So much sexy in one photo! The talented Brent Ray Fraser, Dr. Jess and Violet Vega smile for the camera

The beautiful lobby in the Shangri La.

Dr. Jess is interviewed by CTV

Butlers in the Buff! You can hire these servers for your next party.

Toys galore!

Dr. Jess' new dress from Carrie's Closet.

Sisterly love <3 Dr. Jess and her sister (and yoga pro) Laura.

A stunning view of the Vancouver harbour.

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Quiver Books presents Dr. Jess at the Everything to do with Sex Show in Halifax!

It was a weekend of warm hospitality, sexy performances & a healthy amount of wine & lobster (not to mention the wild after party!). Jess got to meet many of her east-coast fans and after her packed seminars even made some new ones!

Haligonians just couldn't get enough of The Oral Sex Deck & Hot Sex Tips, Tricks & Licks. We sold out!

Dr. Jess and Adult stars Charmane Star & Breanne Benson. We love these ladies!

So many hot tips all in one place! Be sure to check out Sonia Borg's Oral Sex You'll Never Forget.

Dr. Jess poses for photos with show guests.

Samantha enjoying her new new Lelo.

Dr. Jess at the after party with Charmane & Breanne.

Enjoyed the Halifax Sex Show Recap? You can read all about Dr. Jess' trip to the Montreal Everything to do with Sex Show/Salon de L'Amour et de la Seduction too!

Dr. Jess was thrilled to represent Playboy TV at the Everything to do with Sex Show in Montreal!

The Everything to do with Sex show is always a fantastic event and Montreal was no exception. Dr. Jess had a full house at all her seminars and got the crowd all riled up with her educational and comedic sessions! From a live interview on CJAD 800 with Dr. Laurie Betito to jam-packed signing session with Quiver Books, the weekend flew by and we're already missing Montreal.

Dr. Jess and Brandon at Roxi D'Lite's booth

Dr. Jess drew quite a crowd at the the Playboy TV booth.

Sabrina was a great addition to the Sex WIth Dr. Jess team!

Dr. Jess and Carlyle Jansen from Good for Her

The beautiful St. James Hotel 

They converted this stunning old bank into the restaurant at the St. James Hotel.

Dr. Jess and Susan Alper of Susan Alper Connections.

Dr. Jess, Frank from Monde Ose and Roxi D'Lite

Dr. Jess and...

Do you get frustrated when your he leaves his towel on the floor over and over again? Does it bother you when she forgets to buy milk for the fifth time? It's normal in a relationship to get frustrated by the small bad habits of your partner. This frustration, however, can sometimes grow to the point where it affects larger aspects of your relationship such as your sex life. To stop this from happening, here's a tip to help you not sweat the small stuff:

Think of your partner like a piece of meat! 

Anytime you encounter a small thing your partner has done that frustrates you (ie. left the toilet seat up, left the oven on, etc), try to think of your carnal attraction to your partner. Think of your partner like a piece of meat and focus on one part of him or her that you think is absolutely sexy. This thought doesn't necessarily have to lead to sex - it simply helps you forget about the petty issue and remember what you love about your partner.

Dr. Jess passed through Grande Prairie last week to participate in HIV North Society's 25th anniversary! She met with a great group of enthusiastic community members and shared insights on everything from healthy relationships to the mysterious G-Spot. Check out some of the pics below!

These lovely ladies (all co-workers) made Dr. Jess' event at Ovations Theatre a "work night" out!

Jared Gossen, Team Lead of HIV/North Society & Amanda, Street Nurse, pose for a quick shot!

Brittney (RN) taught Dr. Jess a thing or two about childbirth and the female anatomy...

Dr. Jess poses with another fun workshop participant.

What a novel concept! Amid the hustle, bustle and stress of the Edmonton airport, a pianist offers some soothing sounds...

Check out what the Daily Herald Tribune had to say about Dr. Jess' event:

Renowned Sexologist Takes The Stage Monday

By Caryn Ceolin

"Dirty talk won’t happen just in the bedroom, Monday evening.

HIV...

I wouldn’t wish being 24 on anyone: it’s an age wrought with complete confusion, desperation, irresponsibility, raging hormones and being completely broke. The only thing worse than being in your early to mid twenties is being in your early to mid twenties in the dating world.

We all have to jitter our way through our twenties eventually, and my only hope is to make it out fairly unscathed. That hasn’t quite been the case thus far, so as I approach turning 25 in a month and a half, I am praying the latter half of this decade is (slightly) less of a vodka-induced haze with a side of heartbreak.

Not only have I endured my own dating nightmares, I also have the pleasure of being the resident pseudo-psychiatrist amongst my group of friends, which allows me to experience by proxy the horrors I haven’t had the pleasure of weathering. Along the way I have managed to compile a small but valuable collection of knowledge about the complete chaos that is the dating...

Dr. Jess (PlayboyTV's Sexologist) offers tips & advice to spice up your sex life at Toronto's 2013 Everything to do With Sex Show. From dirty talk & seduction moves to relationship tips & oral sex techniques, fans left with the confidence to heighten intimacy and reignite the passion in the bedroom.

We here at Sex with Dr. Jess recently became acquainted with Mary Anne Marlow, author of Pursue to Paradise.  Mary has devoted many years of her life to learning Tantric methods of sacred union. Naturally, we wanted Mary Anne's help to introduce you, the readers, to the Lifestyle of Tantra. Here is what she had to share with us:

How did you first come to know the "Lifestyle of Tantra"?

It was well over 10 years ago, while living in the arms of paradise in Costa Rica, where I was introduced to the “Lifestyle of Tantra”. A couple that I regularly provided Aromatherapy massage to owned a B & B Tantra Retreat and together, they were disciplined in the sacred practices of the Eastern Tantra/Tao Philosophies.  One aspect of that lifestyle was exercising healthy intimate meditations of sexual energy.  Following this; I took it upon myself to fine-tune techniques learned through the writings of Mantak Chia & other various masters.

What is the...