According to Lovehoney, The Sexual Happiness People, Canadians are into a wide range of activities and props when it comes to sex. The top search terms based on web searches and sales in the Great White North since 2020 are as follows:

General item searches:

• Dildo
• Butt Plug
• We-Vibe (a good Canadian brand)
• Dildo Moulding Kits
• Cock Ring

The most searched for body parts include:

• Nipples
• Anal
• Prostate
• Clit

It’s no surprise that Canadians are searching for dildos, butt plugs and prostates (our Anal Sex  & Prostate Play Episodes consistently rank as our most popular podcast shows), but we were surprised to learn that Canadians are so keen on moulding their own dildos.

How cool and crafty!

The Clone-A-Willy kit is apparently a best-seller, as it allows you to transform your lover’s phallus into a toy — it's the gift that keeps on giving. It comes in multiple colours and even offers the option to create a glow in the dark version.

It makes sense...

This week we share our relationship check-in -- short(ish), sweet and unscripted.

Most couples invest in the start-up phase of their relationships (e.g. the wedding and honeymoon) and then they set themselves on autopilot without formally discussing their feelings, desires, goals and needs — until something goes wrong. By scheduling weekly or monthly check-ins, you can reduce tension, improve understanding and nip issues in the bud before they erupt into bigger problems.

Relationship check-ins do not need to follow a specific format. They can be semi-formal (e.g. a conversation with notes over brunch) or more casual (a text chain you update every afternoon). It’s up to you to decide what works for you knowing that the more you talk about your feelings, needs and concerns, the more likely you will be to meet one another’s expectations.

You might start with these three simple prompts:

How are you feeling right now?
How are you feeling in this relationship?
How can I...

Which one are you?

Jess joined Antony and Carolyn yesterday on Global TV's The Morning Show to talk about a study that looked at commitment and categorized 376 couples into four groups:

1. Conflicted, but passionate
2. Partner-focused
3. Social butterflies
4. Dramatic

Check out the video below for their conversation.

We respond to your questions about sleep orgasms, ruined orgasms, forced orgasms, vaginal taste and more.

Check out our sponsor Adam & Eve. They have restarted the discount code DRJESS for 50% off almost any item in the store PLUS free shipping. And on top of that a bunch of free gifts included. Take this opportunity to save and try something new tonight!

If you’ve got questions or topic suggestions for the podcast, submit them here. As well, you can now record your messages for us! Please record your message/question in a quiet room and use your phone’s headphones with a built-in mic if possible.

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Rough Transcript:

This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health or other professional advice, diagnosis or treatment....

What’s really average when it comes to penis size and does it really matter? How do we get over our hang ups around size so that we can all feel confident in our bodies? Should you use certain positions according to size? And are condoms really one-size-fits-all? Jess and Brandon share their perspectives and are joined by Milla Impola  of ONE condoms.

Milla Impola is the Director of Marketing at ONE® Condoms, a brand of premium condoms and lubricants. ONE® is passionate about sexual health education and innovation. ONE® also launched the myONE® brand of 60 condom sizes. Knowing proper condom fit is key for pleasure and confidence in your condom, myONE helps resolve issues such as condom slippage, squeezing, and erection loss due to condoms being too tight or small. All ONE Condoms are vegan, non-GMO, made from natural rubber latex, and without any harmful chemicals.

Follow One Condoms Instagram and Twitter to stay up to date...

Use sex toys to break your routine and add creativity to your bedroom play. Here are 7 ways to up the pleasure ante with nothing but good vibes. 

1. Roll your bullet vibrator teasingly between your lover’s thighs to allow the vibrations to awaken their nerve endings throughout the entire pelvic region.

This can prime their body to experience orgasmic sensations far beyond the genitals...when the times comes. Try out the TangoX for the ultimate pleasure! And if you’re new to sex toys and want to try something a bit more affordable, check out the Romp Beat.

2. Add some water-based lube and sweep the tip of your toy over their F-Spot as you breathe warm air over the area.

If they have a penis, the F-Spot is on the underside where the head meets the shaft. It’s the frenulum that attaches the foreskin and if they’re circumcised, you’ll still find a sensitive notch to play with.

If they have a vulva, play with their fourchette, which is the highly...

Urologist, Dr. Denise Asafu-Ajei, joins us to answer your questions about erections:

• How can you prevent erectile dysfunction?
• How do you treat erectile issues?
• How do you know if erectile issues are psychological or physiological in nature?
• What can you do if you lose your erection?
• How do you manage anxiety to reduce negative feedback loops?

Dr. Denise Asafu-Adjei is a urologist with subspecialty training in sexual dysfunction and male infertility. She completed a Fellowship in Andrology at University of California Los Angeles (UCLA). She will be joining the Urology Department at Loyola University in Chicago as the Medical Director of Male Reproductive Medicine.

She completed her Urology residency at Columbia University Irving Medical Center and received her M.D. from the University of Michigan Medical School. She obtained an MPH in Health Policy and Management from the Harvard School of Public Health and a Bachelor of Science from Carnegie Mellon University.

In the future, she...

If you’re looking to (re)ignite the spark or simply introduce something new to your bedroom routine, consider one of these vibes that are priced just right and designed to take your pleasure to new heights.

Lovehoney is having a sale and you can save an extra 10% with code DRJESS10!

The Ignite Love Ring (20 function) is the perfect way to shake up your bedroom repertoire without the pressure to overhaul your entire routine. A vibrating ring (worn at the base of the penis) can enhance sensations, offer firmer erections and allow you to prolong the pleasure for both partners. It’s waterproof, rechargeable and made of stretchy, silky-smooth silicone.

Tips for heightened pleasure:

• Wear it during oral for an over-the-top experience.
• Change positions to allow it to vibrate against your partner’s hottest spots; it they have a clitoris, let them climb on top to add pressure and weight to the vibrations.
• Change it up mid-game; if you’re new to vibrators, play as you...

This podcast is brought to you by Feeld, a dating app for couples and singles where they're a pioneer in allowing couples to explore dating together as a pair. Feeld is for everyone from the experienced to the curious.

Jess & Brandon answer listener questions related to erection loss, anxiety, libido, social norms and how to start difficult conversations.

This episode is brought to you by Lovehoney. They’re having a summer sale and you can save a little extra with code DRJESS10!

Here is a sampling of the questions we address:

#1. My partner is able to get and retain a really bangin' erection and can reliably orgasm during any type of penile stimulation (hand jobs, oral, even just putting lube on my body and rubbing himself back and forth on me), but he quickly and consistently loses his erection during penetration. The only time he is able to maintain an erection during PIV sex is in roleplay situations where I'm pretending to be someone other than myself.

Logically I know...

In Part II of our threesome discussion, we share questions and prompts to consider before you have a threesome — for individuals and couples. We also share some of our listeners’ insights on threesomes and discuss couples’ privilege.

Check out the questionnaires below and be sure to check out our sponsor Lovehoney, as they have the most innovative toys, props and lingerie. Use code DRJESS10 to save.

(And if you’re curious about the Greedy Girl Thrusting G-Spot Vibe, check it out here!)

Threesomes: Self-Questionnaire 

• Why do you want to have a threesome?
• Where did the idea of a threesome come from? How do you feel about this source?
• What benefits do you expect to derive from a threesome?
• What are the perceived risks/costs?
• With whom would you like to have a threesome? Do you know if they’re open to it?
• How might your relationship with your threesome mates change post-threesome?
• What excites you most about a...