Most people fantasize about threesomes, but not many people actually dive in. In part I of our Threesomes podcast, we dive into the data and get some practical advice from Justin Lehmiller who answers your questions including:

• How common are threesomes?
• What counts as a threesome?
• How does a threesome affect relationships for couples?
• Who is having threesomes?
• How do people find threesomes (e.g. through apps like Feeld)?
• What’s the appeal of threesomes?

Next week, we’ll dive into how to prep for a threesome with prompts, conversations and more!

Justin Lehmiller the Scientific Advisor to Feeld, and host of the Sex and Psychology Blog and Podcast. To stay up to date with The Kinsey Institute research fellow, follow his Instagram and Twitter!

Feeld is the first dating app for couples and singles. They're a pioneer in allowing couples to explore dating together as a pair -- from ethical non-monogamy to alternative relationships and everything in between. Feeld is...

Sydney Rae Chin joins us to share her personal experience as a closeted queer woman who grew up Chinese-American-Catholic. She shares some really valuable advice on how to navigate emotional consent and leaves us with tools for navigating boundaries and honouring our own values.

They dive deep into conversation around polyamory, monogamy, and coming out to their family answering these questions and more!

• Can you have monogamous relationships as a polyamorous person?
• Can polyamory & monogamy co-exist in a relationship?
• How do you cultivate emotional consent and communicate emotional boundaries?
• How do you come out to family — as polyamorous or queer?
• How do culture and gender intersect with experiences of polyamory?

To stay up to date with Sydney, check out her website and follow her on Instagram.

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Are you comfortable talking dirty? Do you feel silly trying new lines, approaches and scenarios? You’re not alone. Jess and Brandon share their struggles (while sharing a few laughs) and offer guidance & strategies for all types of dirty talk from sweet and romantic to naughty and kinky. They try out dozens of lines that you can practice on your own and share with a partner (or two!).

Want to learn more about dirty talk? Check out The Ultimate Guide to Seduction and Foreplay co-authored by Marla Renee Stewart.

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If you’ve got questions or topic suggestions for the podcast, submit them here. As well, you can now record your messages for us! Please record your message/question in a quiet room and use your phone’s headphones with a built-in mic if possible.

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With more pandemic restrictions lifting, couples might be finding that their partner is ready to head back into the new normal when it might still be overwhelming to them. Jess joins Carolyn and Jeff on Global TV's The Morning Show to discuss tips to navigate through the relationship and how to approach friends and family who have chosen to not receive the vaccine.

Check out the video and summary below.

How do you deal if your partner is much more relaxed about re-opening (ie: wants to drop all precautions) and you’re not or vice versa

Differentiate. You don't have to do everything together. So if they're ready to meet on patios and you find it overwhelming, be supportive of one another's individual choices. Spend time apart doing your own things. You don't have to agree on everything and you don't have to convince your partner that you're right.

But what if they're taking risks that put you at risk?

If they're taking risks that you feel put you at risk, then you need to speak...

How social media use affects relationships

Every second Friday, I join CBC’s Here And Now for my new radio column, Love In Uncertain Times. Most recently on the column, we discussed the ways in which social media affects relationships. Check out the notes from the interview below.

How does social media affect real life relationships?

Research suggests that like all experiences, it’s a blend of both positive and negative.

• On the positive side, social media offers additional sources of social support, connection with like-minded groups, affirm relationship status, source of education, means of documenting memories
• On the flipside, social media is also associated with unrealistic expectations (e.g. #couplegoals), suspicion & jealousy, conflict, distraction from the present and adverse mental health outcomes

The way we use social media may be reflective of our attachment styles. Research shows that those who are more anxiously attached are more likely to want to...

As more cities and provinces across the country are reopening and vaccination rates are increasing, we’re seeing a gradual return to normalcy from coast to coast. But what does this mean for relationships? A good deal has changed over the past 16 months — especially the way we connect in relationships, so I joined The Morning Show team to discuss my predictions for post-pandemic love.

Check out the video and summary below.

Is there going to be a massive onslaught of dating as many people as you can?

I’m hearing a mix. I know some people south of the border who are doing all they can to get out and date. But I also hear from others, who despite being fully vaccinated and having the freedom to do as they please. They are just not ready to dive in head first. We didn’t get to transition into this pandemic in Canada. We were just told to stay home and stop going to work & school in March 2020; but we can choose to more gradually transition back to the new...

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This week, Dr. Lexx joins us to talk about adipositivity & enmeshment in relationships. She shares insights on how to recognize enmeshed dynamics and strategies for managing enmeshment.

Follow Dr. Lexx's Instagram and Twitter . To learn more about the MUSICARES event Dr. Lexx will be moderating next week on the 16th, check out the information on her website at LexxSexDoc.com.

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On this week's podcast, Jess & Brandon discuss sexual compatibility and share their personal experiences while addressing these Qs:

• How do know know if you’re sexually compatible?
• What can you do if you’re not sexually compatible?
• What are the keys to sexual compatibility?
• What’s the difference between desire and identity?
• Should you break up if you’re not sexually compatible?
• How can you find middle ground if you’re not feeling compatible?

Jess & Brandon weigh in on these questions and much more! Plus we’ve got a sex toy give-away from Romp Toys, so be sure to tune in! And don't forget to check out our amazing sponsor Adam & Eve. They are offering 50% off almost any item including shipping with code DRJESS.

If you’ve got questions or topic suggestions for the podcast, submit them here. As well, you can now record your messages for us! Please record your message/question in a quiet room and use your phone’s headphones...

Every other Friday, I join Gill Deacon on CBC's Here and Now for our new column, Love In Uncertain Times. Listen via the link at the bottom of this page and check out the text summary below.

1. You say that looking for a soulmate is unrealistic. What do you mean?

From a mathematical standpoint, connecting with your one true soulmate in a world of approximately 7 billion people means that the odds are decisively stacked against you. If we assume that 75% of the population is of dating age and you are only interested in half of them (if you're bisexual your chances are even slimmer), you have a one in 2.625 billion chance of finding the one.

The soulmate myth also suggests that there is someone perfect for you and this is simply not realistic. Nor is the notion that love and commitment sounds like a dream come true. Who wouldn't want a partner who loves them unequivocally? But the reality is that no relationship that is rooted in honesty, equality and respect is truly without...

Backdoor play can be highly erotic, but it can also be uncomfortable if you don’t know how to prep and play. Surgeon and sexual health expert, Dr. Evan Goldstein, joins us to share his expertise so that you can enjoy even more pleasure — before, during and after anal sex. He answers a range of questions including:

• How can we make anal sex more pleasurable for first timers?
• What positions are best?
• Can anal sex stretch/damage the anus or rectum?
• What’s normal when it comes to poop?
• What is Future Method and how can it help with preparing for anal sex?
• What is anal training and why is it important?
• How can you facilitate relaxation before you start to play?
• What is the structure of the butt in terms of musculature and why is important to get to know your own butt?

Follow Dr. Goldstein's Instagram and check out Bespoke Surgical to learn more about his practice.

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