Can you handle rejection? Have you practised this essential life skill? What can you learn from rejection? And how can you check your avoidance behaviours?

Couples and Intimacy Therapist, Brittanni Young, joins us to share her powerful insights on rejection, expectations, avoidance, and more.

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After a recent podcast on ethical porn with the fabulous Jetsetting Jasmine, I was approached by Bellesa Plus, a porn company run by women. I've partnered with them to spread the news about Bellesa Plus and thought I'd share the questions I asked of them before opting into the partnership.

Check out the Q&A below.

What is Bellesa Plus?

Bellesa Plus, a streaming porn platform, is THE Netflix of Porn. Committed to bridging the gap between mainstream and adult, Bellesa Plus is on a mission to make ethical porn accessible to as many people as possible — by allowing subscribers to choose what price they want to pay for porn.

The mission is to empower women to embrace/ explore/ celebrate their sexuality.

What inspired you to launch Bellesa (Plus)?

The biggest thing we would hear originally when discussing ethical porn, is “why would I pay for porn?”. And to be fair, we kind of understood it. Until very recently, there hadn’t been much conversation around the...

Feeling tense or distracted? Looking to feel more connected to your body and/or more present in the current moment? Carve out a few minutes to reset with our guided body scan from our Mindful Sex course.

In under ten minutes, you should be on your way to feeling more relaxed and more open to all types of connection (and pleasure).

And if you want to explore additional exercises and strategies for mindfulness with a focus on pleasure, connection, and intimacy, be sure to check out our self-paced Mindful Sex course. It includes over 20 video/audio guides and dozens of strategies and exercises to help you slow down, de-stress and savour every last moment — in and out of the bedroom.

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There are no sure-fire techniques (and nothing compares to open communication), but hopefully, these techniques will inspire you to try something new tonight!

A Lotta Hot Air

Lick your lips and open them wide as you breathe warm air over your lover’s pucker. Gently flatten your tongue against the opening and then purse your lips to breathe cooler air over the soft, wet spot you’ve created.

Dear Daisy

Use the soft pad of your thumb (slathered in lube) to trace petals around the pucker as you breathe gently over the wet spot.

Eat Your Heart Out

Use your hands to pry open your lover’s supple butt cheeks and dive in with your lips, nose, and tongue. Slurp, kiss, lick, twirl, and suck away as though you’re diving face-first into a bowl of freshly whipped cream.

Slip N’ Slide

Slather your hand in lube and slide in a very gentle karate chop-style motion between your honey’s butt cheeks starting at the very top. Once they’re is fully relaxed,...

Every day, I receive sex and relationship questions on every platform you can think of. Questions and answers range from the simple (Am I gay if I like anal sex? Of course not.) to 10-paragraph essays outlining detailed relationship issues that span decades and originated before I was born.

From teens to seniors, sex gets people talking and leaves us feeling intensely curious. It can be difficult to manage the volume of questions I receive and even more challenging to answer complex issues in shorthand. I’m rarely able to give a question the time and thoughtfulness it deserves, but since I started the Sex With Dr. Jess Podcast a few years ago, I’ve had the chance to answer hundreds of questions.

The following are questions from podcast listeners from Toronto and beyond.

What is a good position to have an orgasm for a woman?

Everyone is different, but you might want to try lying on your stomach with your hand underneath your pelvic bone so that you have something to...

Board-certified gynecologic surgeon and author of This Is How You Vagina, Dr. Nicole Williams joins us to share her knowledge and wisdom on the following questions and more.

• What makes discharge normal? How can you tell if something is awry?
• What myths hold us back from loving our vaginas?
• Why might your vulva be itchy?
• How do fibroids affect sex and pleasure?

Follow Dr. Nicole on Instagram, Twitter, Facebook, and The Gynecology Institute of Chicago website.

And don’t forget to check out our awesome video course, Mind Blowing Oral: Clitoral Edition. Use discount code PODCAST for 25% off! And if you love a penis, you can use the same code to save on the Penis Pleasure version as well.

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For many people returning to work, anxiety levels are increasing. Jess sat down with Jeff & Cheryl Hickey on Global TV's The Morning Show to share tips for managing anxiety. They discuss what it means for hybrid teams, couples, and more.

Check out her notes and the video interview below.

If you’re feeling anxious about heading back to the office, how can you soothe your own anxiety?

Workplace-related anxiety is common during non-pandemic times with around 50% reporting that stress and anxiety affect their performance, their relationships with coworkers, and the quality of their work. Add the transition from remote work to in-person work in the midst of a pandemic and it’s no surprise that folks are experiencing anxiety that spills over in our personal lives. 70% report that workplace stress affects our relationships at home and physical symptoms are also common, so that’s where I suggest you start — with the physical.

What do you...

Are you holding onto resentments? Is resentment holding you back from being present and full of joy? Do you have difficulty expressing how you feel or do you feel confined to specific roles?

Tune into this conversation with psychotherapist Roxanne Francis as she guides us through:

• How resentment builds
• How to let go of resentment in relationships
• How resentment is tied to avoidance and vulnerability
• Techniques to move through the process of managing resentment — from both sides
• Ways to process emotions constructively

Keep up to date with the registered social worker and psychotherapist Roxanne Francis through her website or on her Instagram and Twitter accounts.

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I recently contributed to an article about cunnilingus and I’m happy to share my notes on the blog today. Check them out and feel free to share your advice in the comments.

Q: What are a few things you think everyone should know about cunnilingus?

Generally speaking, the more you enjoy yourself, the more your partner will enjoy the experience. Your partner may have received negative messages about their genitals growing up (and into adulthood) and while it’s not your job to undo all of the damaging effects, if you show appreciation and admiration for their vulva, it may help them to relax and be more present. Every vulva is different.

What worked for a previous partner may not work for your current partner(s), so don’t make assumptions. Ask for feedback and follow their lead and guidance. Remember that you can stimulate the internal erectile tissue of the clitoris via the lips. Rub, grind and press against the lips on the outside and you’ll likely stimulate...

This week, we flip the scripts and our intern, Maggie Lee, interviews Jess about her journey into the field of sexuality. They talk education, equity, the business of sex and Jess shares her insights for the next generation of sexuality professionals.

Womanizer and We-Vibe is having a sale! Use code DRJESS to save a few extra from products such as the Starlet to the Wish.

And do check out the latest book by Jess and Marla Stewart, "The Ultimate Guide to Seduction & Foreplay," right here.

If you’ve got questions for the podcast, submit them here. As well, you can now record your messages for us! Please record your message/question in a quiet room and use your phone’s headphones with built-in mic if possible.

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