Have you ever wondered how you could improve your presence in the online dating scene? Have you thought about what does and doesn't work? Jess joins Carolyn and Jeff on Global TV's The Morning Show as she gives us better online dating tips. Check out her notes and the video interview below.

1. How should you approach your opening line?

We put that out to our social media community and here are the results:

1. Use their name. Not baby, cutie, honey, sweetie, etc.
2. Demonstrate that you’ve actually read their profile, so start the conversation with something from their bio.
3. Normal conversation like “How’s your week going?”. No gimmicks.
4. Joke around. e.g. Pick one: Compliment. Dad Joke. I Roast You.

2. What should you avoid?

• Do not copy and paste as though you’re shooting fish in a barrel, because you’re not. This is the wide ocean of online dating.
• Don’t start with sexual come-ons or assume that you’re entitled to their...

How do you talk to that friend who's breaking COVID rules? What do you do if your partner refuses to go to couples' counselling? Jess dives into these topics on Global TV's The Morning Show. Check out her notes and video interview below!

How to deal with friends who don’t agree on safety protocols as we lockdown for the 4058209384234^th time?

The reality is that we have science, we have memes and, evidence-based research that doesn’t always fit into an easily shareable meme. And while memes can be a great way to distill and share information, they can also spread misinformation on all sides.

If you don’t agree, it’s okay, but you have to respect their boundaries. This means not taking their behaviour personally. If they’re not comfortable meeting indoors for dinner, don’t tell yourself the story that they’re not prioritizing you. They’re prioritizing their own comfort, their own mental and physical health. If they’re getting...

Dr. Ali Mushtaq joins us to share his journey from a conservative upbringing to leather title holder and discusses how BDSM education can be more inclusive and justice-oriented. Some of the questions he covers includes:

• When and why is it important to talk about race in BDSM?
• How can we bring anti-oppression frameworks to kinky spaces?
• How do you walk to a partner about racial inequality?
• What is sexual racism and how does it cause harm — physically and emotionally?
• How do power dynamics develop in relation to erotic associations?

To learn more about Dr. Ali’s work, visit GettingWolfie.com

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To celebrate Masturbation May we’re joined by Dr. Megan Stubbs, author of Playing without a partner, a single’s guide to sex, dating, and happiness, who weighs in on these questions and more!

• What are the advantages of being single?
• Is it okay to keep going back to my ex?
• What does it mean if my partner of over a year hasn’t said I love you?
• Is autocunnlingus possible?
• What is edging?
• Why is everyone always complaining about dating and what can we do about it?
• How can you talk to a new partner about sensitive topics?
• What can you do if you’re gassy on a date?

Megan's book discusses embracing and enjoying life as a single, while steering people away from the idea of what they think a single lifestyle should look like. Follow Megan on Twitter and her Instagram.

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This week we explore surprising hot spots on the body including the Million Dollar Mark as well as a variety of erotic touch techniques from the Liquid Trace to the Breath Kiss. We also answer a listener question about whether or not to invite an ex to your wedding.

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And don’t forget to tune into Intimately You with Dr. Jess on CityTV Fridays at midnight starting May 14th -- presented by TSC!

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Dr. Shemeka Thorpe is a brilliant sex researcher, post-doctoral fellow and the founder of the Minority Sex Report. She joins us to talk about her latest research and we answer some of your burning questions including:

• I can't get into receiving oral sex. Is something wrong with me?
• What's the difference between bisexuality and pansexuality?
• How do I get over my partner's past?
• How can we improve sexual communication?
• How do we manage pain during sex?
• How do I advocate for myself with health professionals?

Check out Dr. Shemeka Thorpe's work (including her database of BIPOC Pelvic Floor Therapists) & follow her on Instagram where she is #MakingResearchRelevant.

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Got sexual and pelvic health questions? We’ve got answers! Dr. Rachel Gelman, Doctor of Physical Therapy and pelvic floor specialist returns to answer your questions related to sex, pleasure and pelvic floor functioning including:

• What is bumper sex?
• What can I do about leaking when I laugh?
• How do bowel movements affect pelvic floor function and sexual response?
• Why is anal pleasure so much hotter after my second child?
• What causes painful erections and how do you treat them?
• How do you promote stronger erections — for penises & clitorises?
• How does sitting at your desk all day affect sexual functioning?
• Why does oral feel so good after childbirth?
• How can changing the way you breathe promote pelvic floor function?

Learn more about Dr. Rachel Gelman at www.pelvicwellpt.com and follow her on social:
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twitter: @rachelgdpt
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How do you keep things exciting in the midst of a repetitive routine? How can adults be more playful (because playfulness is associated with happier relationships & hotter sex)? What simple changes can you implement to make your daily interactions more fun, passionate and erotic -- even if you're super busy?

You're not a light switch, so you likely can't get turned on in the blink of an eye. This week to celebrate our wedding anniversary, we share 20+ specific strategies and action items you can use to make your relationship more romantic, intimate and erotic.

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What are the causes of pain postpartum? How can you soothe your own pain and what exercises and massage techniques can help? What does self massage entail — both directly and indirectly? And how do you assess readiness for sex postpartum? How does a Caesarian birth affect sexual functioning?

Perinatal Therapist, Janette Yee, joins us to answer these questions and more.

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A listener shares their story and feelings after having had cheated on their long-term partner. They ask for help managing the guilt and shame and Jess & Brandon weigh in on the topic with a discussion of:

• Whether or not to tell your partner about an affair
• Why talking about cheating can be helpful in all relationships
• How to talk about affairs in the hypothetical to improve understanding in relationships
• How the language of confession can feel burdensome
• How to manage feelings of guilt
• How to forgive yourself
• How to work through feelings of shame
• How to practice self-compassion
• How to learn from previous regrets

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