Life is grand!

But life is also very busy and in between conference calls, social calls, meetings, drinks with friends, children's activities and your day-to-day responsibilities, it's not uncommon for your relationship to fall to the bottom of your priority list. But it doesn't have to be this way! You can prioritize your intimate relationship within the context of a busy lifestyle by making small changes each and every day. Consider these four approaches (you can just pick one) to make your daily interactions more playful and romantic:

1. Take 60 seconds every day to make your partner feel important by performing a simple favour: make them a tea, slice some fruit, lay out their clothes, warm up their socks over the heating vent, throw their town in the dryer and greet them after their shower, clean their laptop screen, warm up their car, shine their shoes — the possibilities are endless! Small favours pack a huge punch in terms of maintaining the connection — think of...

I didn't wake up to watch the Royal Wedding this morning and the more I consider the power and role of the monarchy, the more concerned I grow about its role in social injustice. BUT I have received many questions this week about the supposed "disasters" faced by the bride-to-be and I'm happy to weigh in on the topic. Here are a few thoughts:

Your wedding day is a celebration of your love. The day itself is not a good foundation for a relationship, because it represents only a brief snapshot in time and in many cases, it becomes a performative event.

You need to stop planning your wedding and start planning your relationship. You need to stop worrying about your wedding and start working on your relationship. Considering divorce rates, infidelity rates and marital satisfaction rates that consistently decline over time, you have bigger things to worry about than a loud kid, a drunk relative or an imperfect food spread.

General advice for dealing with so-called...

Jess and Brandon chat about their current sexual dry spell and male sex myths. Brandon opens up about some personal concerns and Jess comments on recent research on male sexual desire.

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There are many ways to seduce your partner and eroticize your relationship, but sometimes a few simple changes can do the trick. This list will definitely entice you to skip dinner and go straight to bed. Check it out!

Use lots of lube and feather-light touch! Your dextrous fingers will feel just like a tongue if you slather them in lube and stroke with barely-there pressure. If you have trouble controlling yourself, use only the backs of your fingers. Since you have ten fingers, you can simulate “licking” with more than one tongue at once all over your lover’s hottest parts to rile them into a frenzy! My favourite is Astroglide’s Ultra Gentle Gel which is perfect for stroking, licking, teasing and grinding alike.

Take out the We-Vibe Pivot for a test-drive. This powerhouse vibrating ring is unlike any other I’ve ever tried. Its texture is silky soft and you can adjust it to vibe against various hot spots according to your preference.

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What can we learn from Tristan Thompson & Khloe Kardashian’s cheating challenges? Why do we stay with partners who cheat? And what conversations are ESSENTIAL to a happy, lasting relationship? Jess shares her answers, theories, and strategies on cheating, monogamy and relationship communication.

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Podcast Transcript:

Welcome to the @SexWithDrJess Podcast. I’m Jessica O’Reilly, your friendly neighbourhood sexologist and I’m back in Toronto today still recovering from my travels and having lost my voice aboard the Desire Resorts cruise. I had a blast on board and my highlight was definitely Florence. There’s something about that city that always leaves me wanting more and more. And on board, my highlight was just sitting on the top deck watching the shoreline and listening to DJ Willis down below. Let me tell you, life is good. I probably have one of the best jobs in the world, so thank you to...

Apparently, Tristan Thompson has been caught cheating on Khloe Kardashian once again. And your immediate response may be “who cares?”, but regardless of whether or not you keep up with the Kardashian’s (I’ve never seen an episode), there is some insight to be gained from considering and discussing celebrity relationship headlines.

For example, you might use Tristan and Khloe’s story as an impetus to start a conversation about how you define monogamy in your relationship. Or you might use it as an opportunity to discuss your own insecurities with your partner. We’re all insecure — some of us are simply brave enough to face our insecurities head-on. (Listen to Brandon and I discuss our relationship insecurities in this podcast.)

But back to Tristan and Khloe…

Jess sat down with Global TV’s Jeff McArthur to discuss how couples can learn from their experience and move on after sexual infidelity. Check out the summarized notes and...

Masturbation is good for your sex life whether you're single or coupled. It’s the prime opportunity to learn about your own body without the pressure to perform or meet another person’s needs. And once you know what you like in bed, you can train a partner (or two or three!) to be a part of the process.

Treat self-pleasure as you would with partnered sex and experiment. We tend to masturbate using the same technique, in the same location and in the same position over and over again; changing things up can help you to discover new likes and dislikes. Try a new position, a new toy or a new approach to see if you learn something surprising about your body’s unique sexual response.

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Pay attention to your breath. Are you holding it? Experiment with a range of breathing patterns (e.g. short and shallow, deep and slow) to see how your sexual response changes.

Let your sounds emanate freely. Don’t hold back. When we watch porn, we often see and hear...

Jess & Brandon are in Italy aboard the @DesireResorts Cruise - a clothing optional experience for open-minded couples. Tune in to learn more about this exciting erotic experience.

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Expressing how you feel to make your lover feel important does not have to involve grand gestures. In fact, sometimes it is the little things (and the practical ones) that make the biggest impressions and keep the spark alive. Make a habit of performing simple favours that take less than a minute on a regular basis using this list as inspiration:

• Iron/steam a shirt
• Pick up your lover’s favourite dessert
• Warm up a towel in the dryer while they’re in the shower
• Draw a bath
• Pack a lunch
• Pick up wine or beer
• Fold their laundry
• Purchase staples (shampoo, soap, shaving cream etc.) that they would usually pick up themselves
• Brew coffee in the morning
• Plug in their phone or laptop overnight
• Rub their feet
• Light candles to help them relax
• Pick up their dry cleaning
• Take their car to the carwash
• Pour them a drink/fetch them a beer
• Shine their shoes
• Order take-out/bring home dinner
• Carve a grapefruit, chop an apple or prepare their favourite fruit
• Warm up the bed
• Set their alarm
• ...

Goddess Lola Jean joins Jess on the podcast this week. Lola shares her perspective on life as a pro and lifestyle dom, and fetish wrestler. She also gives insights on why domming can be therapeutic and how she uses it as a way to build self-confidence. Happy listening!

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