Why We Misread Our Partners & What We Can Do About It
Dr. Liz Powell joins Jess and Brandon to discuss how “hot thoughts” sabotage relationships. They also discuss friendships, gender roles and share personal stories of relationship struggles.
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Check out Dr. Liz's book, Building Open Relationships, here.
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How to Initiate Tough Conversations
Whether you want to address an issue related to money, childrearing, in-laws, chores or sex, the toughest conversations are almost always the most important. And if you approach them effectively, they can also be the most fruitful and positive. However, most of us struggle to turn difficult conversations into positive interactions, because we’re often overcome by emotion and not prepared with our own expectations of outcomes.
Jess joined Liem and Carolyn to share her strategies for addressing difficult topics earlier today on The Morning Show. Check out the summary and video below.
Why do little annoyances or simple requests often snowball into bigger arguments?
Most of us wait until we’re frustrated to speak up, which is why our communication is often framed as a series of *complaints* and/or *criticisms* to which our partners respond with defensiveness and/or aggression. If you speak up before you become frustrated or resentful, you’ll find that the results of...
Questions to Deepen the Bond With Your Partner
Dying to uncover your partner's deepest fantasies and most profound vulnerabilites? All you have to do is ask!
During the initial stages of dating, we tend to ask probing questions to get a better sense of a potential partner's personality and history. But why not take a chance and ask similar questions to a long-term partner? You never know what kind of answers you're going to get or where the conversation may lead.
Asking questions that encourage your partner to share previously unrevealed information or be vulnerable has the potential to deepen your connection.
The former facilitates the sharing of new information, which has the potential to reignite the passion chemicals and feelings you experienced when you first met. On early dates, you were constantly learning, sharing and discovering new things about your partner — the associated anticipation, curiosity, and excitement helped to ignite dopamine, serotonin, and adrenaline, which...
What Do Your Neighbors Fantasize About?
Are you curious about your friends, co-workers and neighbors’ fantasies? Of course you are! Dr. Justin Lehmiller was curious too, so he asked over 4000 Americans to share their deepest, darkest and most exciting fantasies. He discusses this fascinating research from his latest book, Tell Me What You Want, with Jess in this week’s episode.
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Check out another podcast Jess recorded with Justin about cuckolding and cuckqueening here!
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How Random Acts of Kindness Can Help Reduce Anxiety
Being kind feels good and now a study suggests that acts of kindness can help to reduce anxiety. Jess joined Jeff to discuss this study and other research related to kindness on Global TV’s The Morning Show. Check out the summary and video clip below.
1. What did this study find?
Two Canadian researchers divided participants into three groups to test the effect of various interventions of social anxiety. One group was assigned exposure therapy, another was asked to record life details (considered a neutral approach) and the other was asked to perform acts of kindness (like doing the dishes for your roommate). Those who performed acts of kindness reported the greatest reduction in social anxiety (measured by levels of social avoidance goals).
2. Why might random acts of kindness reduce social anxiety?
Performing acts of kindness can help to offset expectations of negative social interactions. When you’re kind, you may also anticipate positive interactions from others...
Stop Looking For A Soulmate!
Jess & Brandon talk about how the soulmate myth is bad for dating and relationships.
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The Hottest Expert-Approved Sexting Tips
Sexting is supposedly all the rage. But how many times have you gone back and forth, contemplating what you're going to write in that next sexy text? How do you communicate what you want and leave your lover with a sense of mystery and intrigue? We've joined forces with a few experts to bring you the best sexting advice that will leave your lover wanting more!
Pleasure Coach, Tyomi Morgan-Najieb suggests...
1. Perform a striptease with selfies.
Kick off a sexting session that involves removing clothing layer by layer. Begin with a photo of your body from an angle that only shows your lips and upper body. Include a message to your lover with the photo that sparks intrigue like, “want to see more of me?” With each picture you send, slide your clothing off inch by inch. This will keep your partner’s attention and have them anticipating what they will see when the next photo comes through to their phone. You can even request for your partner to send you...
8 Ways to *Love* Your Body
Adapted from The New Sex Bible.
The way you feel about your body is intrinsically related to your experience of sexual pleasure. Research continues to confirm that those who feel most comfortable in their skin report higher levels of sexual functioning and those negative thoughts about your body can impede both sexual desire and response.
Body image is all about how you feel about your body as opposed to what your body actually looks like. Accordingly, changing your shape, size, weight and overall appearance on its own will not amount to a hotter sex life. A positive attitude toward your body, however, may be just what the sex doctor ordered.
Developing a healthy relationship with your body doesn’t mean that you have to idealize every square inch 24/7. Positive body image involves seeing your own value and learning to appreciate your body for its many functions. Some strategies for improving the way you see your body include:
1. Surround yourself with positive friends, family,...
Digisexuals, Teledildonics, Relationship Anarchy and More
Dr. Markie Twist (sex therapist) & Professor Neil McArthur (ethicist) join Jess to discuss various relationship arrangements including relationship anarchy, affectional-only relationships, and non-sexual parenting partners. Markie shares a few of her experiences and Neil weighs in on recent cases. And we almost forgot that Brandon joins them too simply because he was so fascinated by the topic!
Dr. Markie and Jess also collaborated (along with Ruth Neustifter & Francisco Ramirez) to publish a paper addressing the role of entertainment media in sex education. Read more here.
Additionally, they joined forces to discuss the ethics of sex education in Manitoba in 2017 (sponsored by the University of Manitoba’s Centre for Professional and Applied Ethics) and recorded this Facebook Live video in which they address open relationships.
Professor Neil McArthur and Jess have also collaborated on a previous podcast episode to discuss research on sexbots and how they are shaping...
What Kind of Role Do Sports Play In Your Relationship?
The World Cup is well underway as evidenced by flags on cars, front stoops, storefronts and even bicycles across the country. And since the year’s matches take place in Russia, many fans are waking up extra early or staying up into the wee hours of the night to cheer on their teams.
But aside from the obvious sleep disruptions, what role do sports play in intimate relationships for fans and athletes? Jess joined Jeff to discuss related research today on The Morning Show. Check out the summary and video below and let us know whom you’re cheering for this year!
1. Sports play such an important role in Canadian culture — from hockey to cricket, we have fans of all persuasions. How does sports fandom affect the marital relationship?
When I was looking into the research on sports and intimate relationships, I came across a group of headlines that read something along the lines of “He loves sports more than he loves me.” It seems that the perception that...
