The Science of Flirting
Flirting may be an art, but it is also a custom that is universal across all cultures. Not only is flirting essential to human reproduction, but evolutionary psychologists suggest that humans owe our advanced civilization and technological advances to this fine courtship skill. Our ancestors used body language, eye contact and verbal cues to charm one another and send signals with regard to sexual interest.
Today, we express our attraction to one another using a similar set of subtle (and not so subtle) prompts designed to take the place of awkward conversations. Rather than walking up to a stranger in the bar and asking “Is the attraction mutual?”, we utilize an array of signals ranging from shy smiles to licking lips to convey our desire. This ability to test the waters and enchant our mates may be responsible for our rise to the top of the food chain and research reveals that those who rate themselves as more charming are more likely to get what theywant out of...
How Do I *Convince* My Partner to Swing?
Dr. Jess and Dr. Nancy join forces to answer the question, “how do I convince my partner to swing?”. The short answer is that you don’t convince them to do anything, but you can introduce swinging (and other sexual activities) in a manner that will produce meaningful and sexy conversations. Jess & Nancy share actionable advice you can use today!
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How Can You And Your Partner Achieve A Stable Work-Life Balance?
Many suggest that when it comes to our love lives and professional lives, we simply can’t have it all. Professionals from various backgrounds think compromise as essential to happy relationships and when it comes to work-life balance some experts suggest that when we thrive in one area, we tend to suffer in the other. But new research with dual-career couples suggests otherwise. Jennifer Petriglieri, an assistant professor of organizational behavior at INSEAD, is optimistic about dual-career couples with regard to attachment styles and work-life balance.
Jess joined Jeff on Global TV’s The Morning Show to discuss the implications of this latest research.
1. This research looked at attachment styles in dual career couples. Let’s first address what we mean by attachment styles…
The field of developmental psychology uses attachment theory to examine how our foundational relationships (e.g. our relationship with our parents) influence our adult identities. The...
Signs You're Not Over Your Ex -- And How to Move On
No breakup is easy -- no matter how consciously you uncouple. And getting over an ex can be a complicated and time-consuming process. Here are a few signs that you're still hung up a past relationship as well as a few tips to help you move on:
You check their social media accounts daily. Not only is this a sign that you haven’t moved on, but it may also be keeping you from moving on.
What to do: Cut it out. You don’t have to quit cold turkey, but you may want to set limits. Limit yourself to once every other day and slowly reduce the frequency until you’ve weaned yourself off entirely. It’s natural to be curious and you may still take a peek once in a while, but you’re more likely to move on if you’re not creeping their account daily.
You go places hoping to bump into them. You may tell yourself that you really just like the coffee at one of your shared old haunts or you may lie and say that you want to run into them so they can see how...
Q&A: Affair Sex. Sexual Fantasies. Healing After Cheating
Should I have sex with a married woman? How do I get my partner to open up about fantasies? Once a cheater, always a cheater? Jess (and Brandon) answer these listener questions and more!
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Catfights - They're All In Your Head
Anne Hathaway recently spoke out about rumours of catfights onset of the Ocean’s 8 film.
“It’s been really amazing to watch the way certain members of the media have wanted us to fight each other and the way they wanted there to be competition and catfights, but we were all collaborating—all the time,” Hathaway explains. "Now, we’re friends. We genuinely love each other and we’re so there for each other. It’s a beautiful thing.”
Jess sat down with Jeff to discuss the catfight trope on Global TV’s The Morning Show.
1. Are women more likely to fight with other women?
The data, in fact, suggests otherwise: women have stronger and wider social ties than men and research suggests that women describe their same-gender friendships as closer and more satisfying.
2. Is there actual research into so-called catfights?
A Canadian study found that the catfight trope is primarily in our heads. Researchers presented a workplace...
Common Masturbation Myths Busted!
We’re entering the homestretch of International Masturbation Month. That's right! Thirty-one days devoted exclusively to the celebration and practice of self-love. And though we're loving the celebration, it is inevitably accompanied by a host of misconceptions about what solo sex really means. After all, what we do with ourselves when we’re alone is arguably the most private aspect of sex in general. As a result, many people feel ashamed of the act of masturbation and subsequently tend to misunderstand it.
Thankfully, we’ve got Dr. Markie Twist and Dr. Megan Stubbs on-hand — no pun intended — to help dispel four of masturbation’s most common myths.
The former is an award-winning sexuality educator, sexologist, relationship therapist, author and international speaker. She not only regularly consults and presents on sexual, gender, erotic and relational diversity, but couple and family technology practices, plus tantric sex. And...
3 Surprisingly Healthy Relationship Habits
When it comes to relationships, there is no one-size-fits-all approach. What works for you may not work for your sister, neighbours, parents or best friend. However, we have tendency to judge other people's relationships based on our own experiences, which are neither universally applicable nor rooted in science or expertise. So as as you review these three habits that are healthy for many couples, bear in mind that they may or may not work for you and your partner, so you need to deliberate, discuss and experiment with various approaches to find the right fit.
Without further ado, here are three relationship habits that are often labelled as toxic, but can be healthy in many relationships:
Sharing passwords.
Some people believe that sharing account passwords is a sign that trust is lacking and others suggest that it will inevitably lead to checking up on each other. I believe the opposite is true: sharing your passwords to social media accounts demonstrates that you trust...
The Best Masturbation Tools and Advice for Women
It’s Masturbation May and the questions about self-pleasure are flooding our inboxes. To learn more, listen to Jess’ interview with Sexologist Megan Stubbs — all about masturbation below.
https://storage.googleapis.com/2mmpodcast/drjess/jess5-8.mp3
And check out these recent questions and answers all about solo sex below:
What tips do you have for women who use or want to use their hands to masturbate?
Try these three techniques:
- Put a little lube on the palm of your hand and press it against the top of your vulva. Slide your palm downward with firm pressure.
- Press your middle finger between your labia and squeeze your legs together gently as you slide your finger up and down.
- Curl your index and middle finger just inside the opening of your vagina until you find a rhythm and depth that works for you.
What safety guidelines should women follow if/when masturbating with their hands?
Masturbation is among the safest sex practices and studies suggest that those...
How To Dirty Talk Like A Pro
This week, Jess invites professional sex educator (and professional pervert), Carly S., to the podcast. The pair discuss why dirty talk is such an important form of communication in relationships and how effective it can be when used properly. Carly is a master of dirty talk and gives Jess specific lines and examples that you can use tonight!
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