Sexting Boosts Confidence & Pleasure: Study
The ongoing pandemic has had interesting effects on the intimate lives of Canadians. Not only have we seen sales of sex toys soar above and beyond their pre-pandemic levels, new research suggests that more Canadians are indulging in the use of SexTech for the first time ever.
SexTech refers to technology designed to enhance sexuality including everything from pornography to sex toys and vibrators to sexting — all of which have increased worldwide since February. In Canada alone, the sale of vibrators increased by 263% in March! We clearly have our pleasure priorities straight.
The benefits of SexTech are wide ranging and are not exclusively for single folks. Many advances in sex tech are enjoyed by couples to spice up their sexual lives in new and unique ways. Vibrators that can be controlled via an app from anywhere in the world, for example, enable partners to connect sexually despite being apart. And many people are discovering the benefits of sexting for the first time.
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Exercises for Couples to Try in Isolation
This week on Global TV's The Morning Show, Jess walked Carolyn and Jeff through a few exercises for couples to try during their quarantine. These exercises (both physical and verbal) are to help break the monotony, maintain a strong connection, and inject more excitement into the relationship. Check out her notes and video segment below.
1. The Heartbeat: Rest your head on your partner's chest to listen to their heartbeat. It’s so grounding to think that if that little muscle stops, that’s all she wrote. It’s a good way to start your day and it takes less than a minute.
2. The Gratitude Gap: Thank your partner for something you’ve come to expect and perhaps take for granted.
3. Love Note Hunt: Hide sweet or sexy notes throughout the house and let your partner stumble upon them naturally.
4. What I Miss (for co-workers who are separated): Make a list of 3 things you miss about your co-worker. This isn’t a time to flirt or be...
Why We All Seek Attention & Feel Insecure: The Ayesha & Steph Curry Case
Do you have a partner who craves attention? Do you love getting attention? How do you feel when your partner gets attention from outside sources? Jess and Brandon discuss the Ayesha and Steph Curry case and share their experience with managing insecurity, neediness, attention-seeking and more.
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How to Overcome Sexual Shame
Messages related to sexual shame are ingrained from a young age and they affect how we feel about our bodies, how we interact with sexual partners and how we experience sexual pleasure. This week, we discuss a range of approaches to relinquishing sexual shame. Consent educator, survivor-turned-thriver and founder of CONSENTParenting, Rosalia Rivera joins Jess and Brandon to share her story and insights. They discuss:
- Rosalia’s personal path to recovery after assault
- Pleasure as a route to relinquishing sexual shame
- How partners can support survivors when they disclose past trauma/abuse
- The importance of your inner compass in recognizing sources of shame
Prompt questions to help you examine shame-based beliefs including:
- What messages did you receive about sex from your parents?
- What did your parents tell you about sex with their words?
- What did your parents tell you about sex with their actions?
- How did your parents react to sexual depictions...
Pelvic Floor Health: Perineal Massage, Postpartum, Peeing & De-Stressing Your Vagina
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Pelvic floor physiotherapist, Kate Roddy, joins Jess to answer questions and share advice for keeping your pelvic floor as healthy as possible. They discuss:
- How to destress your vagina
- How to protect your pelvic floor while lifting weights and working out
- The forms of incontinence and how to manage them
- Why you don’t have to settle for peeing when you laugh
- How to do a proper kegel
- How to differentiate between pain and discomfort
- The Power of the Kegel Release Curve
- How to find the back end of the clitoris
- Safe vaginal & perineal massage (especially postpartum)
- Symptoms of an unhealthy pelvic floor
- The 4th trimester
Follow Kate on Instagram. To learn more about the Kegel Release Curve, check out their Instagram and website.
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Zoom Calls: The Good & The Bad
Given our current situation, what are your thoughts and feelings about Zoom calls? Could some calls just have been an email? Jess connects virtually with Carolyn and Jeff this morning from Global TV's The Morning Show to further discuss. Check out her notes and video segment below.
The Good:
- It takes less time to coordinate, so we’re actually seeing one another more often.
- It feels more intimate than a phone call for many of us because of the potential for eye contact, facial expressions, body language, etc.
- Research reflects that connection & cooperation is higher on video calls than via phone and chat; trust can be just as high in video chats as face to face although it takes longer to achieve this, so this may explain why it works for existing friendships like Carolyn’s, but may not be as effective for new dates, acquaintances and clients.
The Struggle:
- It’s emotionally exhausting to be on video calls all day.
- You have...
A Conversation for Lovers
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Jess & Brandon try one of the “Lovers Inquiries” from her new book, The Ultimate Guide to Seduction and Foreplay co-authored by Marla Renee Stewart. They discuss ways to eroticize daily interactions within the context of a busy lifestyle and work through the prompts in the “Why do I love you again?” activity. Have a listen and try it out yourself using these prompts to guide you:
- What was the first thing you noticed about your lover?
- What first attracted you to your lover?
- On your first date, what excited you most?
- On your first date, what made you nervous?
- Do you remember the first time you kissed? What was it like?
- Do you remember the first time you had sex? What was it like?
- What is one awkward intimate moment you wouldn’t want to relive, but are able to laugh about now?
- Can you remember the wildest/hottest sex you ever had? What made it so...
The Good Sex Diet
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Let’s talk about food and sex and dismantle diet culture. Food and sex have so much in common and so many of us (Jess included) consider food an important component of our core love languages. Lisa Davis, author of Clean Eating, Dirty Sex: Sensual Superfoods and Aphrodisiac Practices for Ultimate Sexual Health and Connection, joins Jess and Brandon to discuss the ways in which the foods we eat affect our sex lives. We discuss:
- What foods have been shown to benefit sexual health?
- Why you may not want to “ditch” foods, but rather focus on new additions
- How diet affects metabolism
- How to rice cauliflower
- How diet can affect erectile dys(function)
- The power of flavonoids
- The concept of “cheat days"
Follow Lisa on Instagram. If you want to learn more about her book or podcast, click here. Listen to Lisa's Podcast, Talk Healthy Today, here.
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Sexuality Superheroes: Casey Carter
This week's Sexuality Superhero is Casey Carter. Casey is a fetish lifestyle expert, domme and erotic writer. Whether it's in a classroom, in a sex club, or at an erotic reading, Casey aims to spread her awareness and understanding about sex and relationships to all audiences. Read her feature below!
How did you find yourself working in sexuality?
I was on the verge of separating and getting divorced when I found myself meeting me/Casey for the first time. While she has always been there, I kept her at a distance. Once I embraced and released her, I started expressing myself through erotic writings. On rides to NYC from Stamford, CT, I fell in love with the idea of short stories - something that can be finished in the 50 -60 minute ride into the city or in the roundtrip. After a couple of years of developing characters and releasing my first set of stories, I started Casey@Night on Periscope. It was how I could promote not just my stories, but the stories of other writers....
Can Conflict Save Your Relationship?
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Do you avoid or lean into conflict? Do you fight to win or fight to understand? Do you speak up when you’re unhappy? This week, CrisMarie Campbell and Susan Clarke of Thrive! Inc. join Jess and Brandon to talk about the upside of conflict. They discuss:
- How to start difficult conversations
- Three questions to ask yourself when you’re fighting (or about to engage in conflict)
- How to cultivate better listening skills
- Why you don’t always need to arrive at compromise or a resolution
- The challenge of emotional differentiation
- The connection between conflict and passion
- The 5-5-5 approach to tackling tough topics
Follow CrisMarie & Susan on Instagram and Facebook. Check out their books, The Beauty of Conflict for Couples & The Beauty of Conflict: Harnessing Your Team's Competitive Advantage.
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