Sexual pain is not in your head. Dr. Sonia Bahlani, founder of PelvicPainDoc.com and author of The Holistic Guide to Navigating Pelvic Pain joins us to answer so many questions including:

• How do I deal with painful orgasms? It feels like the head of my penis is being pushed through broken glass.
• How do my bowel movements and constipation affect sexual functioning & orgasm?
• How can an anti-inflammatory diet improve sex?
• How can yoga improve sexual functioning and pelvic floor tone?
• Why does sex hurt?
• Why don’t I feel anything during sex?
• Are there injections, creams or medicines that can help with pelvic pain?

Dr. Sonia also discusses why preventative medicine is essential to sexual health, various diagnoses related to sexual pain and how holistic approaches can revolutionize your (sex) life.

Also be sure to listen to our episode on pelvic floor health, postpartum sex, perineal massage and de-stressing your vagina.

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Last week, we enjoyed a few days in Niagara on the Lake and the Beamsville Bench and this week we’re heading to Norfolk County and Ottawa. Now that we’re grounded, road trips are becoming the norm. For some, a road trip is far less stressful than flying, but most couples and families find that tension can build in small spaces regardless of whether or not you’re on a plane, train or automobile.

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We're lucky to have Niagara-on-the-Lake and the Beamsville Bench so close to the city! We've taken a few trips to the area over the past few weeks and enjoyed great food, good wine & beautiful scenery. Here are a few highlights: . @PeninsulaRidge: lovely meals on the deck of a Queen Anne Revival style house surrounded by vines and with a view of the Toronto skyline across the lake. We enjoyed the Beal vineyard Chardonnay & snacked on a few cherries, saskatoon berries and boysenberries from the trees. . @SouthbrookVineyards: the...

Urologist and sexual wellness expert Dr. Jed Kaminetsky joins us to talk about all things sex including:

• Multiple approaches to lasting longer in bed
• The role or testosterone in sexual desire and functioning
• Orgasm difficulties
• Premature ejaculation
• Delayed orgasm
• The role of muscle memory and neuropathways in orgasm
• Promescent (Use code JESS15 at checkout for 15% off!)

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Not everyone wants to last longer in bed, but if you’re interested in learning more about ejaculatory control, check out our Last Longer in Bed: 6 Steps to Master Premature Ejaculation course which includes exercises in mindfulness, muscle mastery and communication.

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Say hello to Chris Maxwell Rose! Chris is the co-founder of Pleasure Mechanics. They're dedicated to delivering comprehensive sex education and is here to liberate all bodies! Read their feature below and learn more...

How did you find yourself working in sexuality?

I was a queer kid in the 80’s experiencing multiple forms of harm, looking for answers in the self-help section of the library. It was a direct line from those library shelves, to training as a peer sex educator, to starting a sex magazine in college, to the sex education community of San Francisco, where my sex-education godmother Annie Sprinkle introduced me to the grand-daddy of erotic massage, Joseph Kramer.

With Joseph I trained in the erotic massage lineage, co-developed the Sexological Bodywork training and started connecting my cultural studies with the somatic sex education work we were doing, and that’s when I met Charlotte and fell in love. It was 2006, internet video was just starting to be a...

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Sex therapist Vanessa Marin helps Jess and Brandon to explore their sex personality types and how we can use them to better understand our own needs and our partners’.

The 11 sex personality types include:

• The Explorer : sex is your playground, the element of unknown
• The Prioritizer: to know that sex is something you and your partner are willing to prioritize
• The Decompresser: sex is a form of stress relief
• The Fair Trader: generosity is the most important quality of sex, balance of giving and receiving
• The Giver: sex and pleasure is a gift to give to their partner
• The Guardian: safety and security is of the utmost importance during sex
• The Passion Pursuer: you want sex to feel all encompassing, losing yourself in the moment and letting go
• The Pleasure Seeker: the pure physical pleasure to sex
• The Romantic: sex is all about connection, emotional intimacy with...

Today on Global TV's The Morning Show, Jess discussed how sex and dating is being normalized during the COVID-19 pandemic with Carolyn and Jeff. Read her expanded notes below, and don't forget to watch the segment!

1. Discussions of testing have become more normalized and hopefully the destigmatization of sex talk outlasts the pandemic. If we can talk about hand washing, wearing masks and physical distancing with total strangers, hopefully we’ll continue the conversation with our lovers to discuss STIs, condom use and regular testing.

2. Safer sex practices have shifted and public health agencies are getting more creative in their approaches. NYC Health official documents now talk about getting kinky:

a. Wear a face covering or mask. Maybe it’s your thing, maybe it’s not, but during COVID-19 wearing a face covering that covers your nose and mouth is a good way to add a layer of 3 protection during sex. Heavy breathing and panting...

Antuanette Gomez, CEO of Pleasure Peaks joins Jess & Brandon to talk about sex and cannabis. Pleasure Peaks is a sexual health company that develops products for women to have an optimal and healthy sex and this week, we discuss:

• How cannabis can be used to assuage pain and symptoms related to Endometriosis, PCOS, trauma, infertility, and menstrual pain
• Topical uses of non-psychotropic cannabis products
• Cannabis baths
• CBD vs THC
• Cannabis as a superfood
• The role of our endocannabinoid system
• How cannabis suppositories have been used to treat endometriosis
• Pleasure Island retreats
• Strain journaling
• Advice for newbies
• Her role as a young WOC in a now white-dominated field

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Our latest Sexuality Superhero is Ayesha Hussain. Ayesha is the founder of The Violet, an adult cinema company with an emphasis on pornography. Ayesha is using their filmmaking to help heal their past trauma. Read their feature below now!

How did you find yourself working in sexuality?

Sex was always a really shameful part of my life growing up. I grew up in a Muslim household in the Midwest - not a lot of positivity around it in that environment. Then, when I was 13, I was raped. And sex became this overwhelming dark cloud of anger and upset that followed me around everywhere, and I eventually turned inward. Until I decided I was not going to let that define me and I was not going to hate myself because of it. I was not going to believe all of the things that society was telling me was wrong with me, was my fault, etc. And the best way I knew how to combat that was to be completely open and honest about sex. To be completely shameless. That led me to being really...

Marla & Jess wrote a book, The Ultimate Guide to Foreplay & Seduction! They’re having a virtual launch party to celebrate: Wednesday, June 24th at 7pm EST. Register to attend for free! 

In this week’s episode, Jess and Marla chat about their book launch as well as:

• Marla’s thoughts on BLM
• Pleasure as resistance
• Sex Down South
• What makes us seductive
• How we entice our lovers
• How we manage rejection

They work their way through one of the Lovers’ Inquiries in the book and encourage you to consider these questions/discussions prompts too:

• What is the most seductive thing about you?
• What have other people told you about your sex appeal? What do they say turns them on when it comes to your personality, behaviour or appearance?
• What makes you anti-seductive? Would you like to change anything about your behaviour or approach?
• What do people find curious about you? How do you entice others to be curious about you?
• Do you consider...

This morning on Global TV's The Morning Show, Jess shared her advice on how to approach difficult conversations surrounding racism with Jeff and Carolyn. Check out her notes, and don't forget to watch the segment below!

If I’m in an interracial relationship, what should I consider when talking about race with my partner?

1. Be open to learning and listening to your partner's experiences. Don’t assume that you have anything to add. Their experience is unique and you can’t always draw a parallel to your own. In short, remember that it’s not about you. We have a tendency to want to chime in and share our own stories of discrimination and stigma, but when it comes to race, if it’s not your own, it’s better to listen and offer support — not solutions.

2. In your openness to learning, don’t ask them to be your teacher. If you want to be an ally — and that’s an ongoing process not something you ever become...