Why Do We Always Aim to Please? (old example blog post)
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Stop trying to be a people-pleaser. You probably question its worth sometimes. This week, Jess sits down with Marriage and Family Therapist and author of The New Sex Bible for Women, Dr. Amie Harwick, to discuss the science of people-pleasing and why this doesn’t make for healthy relationships.
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How to Nurture Your Relationship With Yourself First!
Valentine's Day is just around the corner and our focus has accordingly shifted toward romantic love. But in 2021, most of us are focused on surviving as opposed to thriving and this often begins with self love, which can be defined in so many different ways.
Jess joined Carolyn and Jeff on Global TV's The Morning Show to explore strategies for nurturing your relationship with yourself earlier today. Check out the summary notes and video below.
What is self love?
I’m so glad you asked, because oftentimes self love is narrowly defined along the lines of spa days and bubble baths, but it can be so many different things. Self love and self care might involve working out, cooking, taking a nap, running, dancing, calling a friend, painting, attending a political protest, setting boundaries with someone in your life, working on your stamp collection or anything else that makes you feel good.
Self love is about holding your own well being and happiness in high regard. This might be...
Polyamory, Toxic Monogamy, & Ethical Non-Monogamy: What Therapists & Practitioners Need to Know
Kevin Patterson & Dr. Liz Powell join us to talk about their new course, Unf*ck Your Polyamory Pro — for both individuals, couples, groups and professionals. They discuss shame, stigma, stereotypes, metamours, toxic monogamy, hierarchies, compersion and lessons that we can all learn from — regardless of whether we consider ourselves monogamous, ethically non-monogamous or otherwise inclined.
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Dating with Herpes: Disclosure, Stigma & Healing
Courtney Brame founded Something Positive for Positive People after his own herpes diagnosis and through his non-profit and podcast, he shares real stories and resources for people with positive STI diagnoses. He joins us to discuss shame, stigma, dating, suicide prevention and more including:
- How he felt when he was first diagnosed
- How he navigated the dating world post-diagnosis
- How people respond when he shares his positive status
- How to disclose to a new partner
- How herpes serves as a compass for the body and self-care
- The costs of herpes jokes
- How we can reduce the shame and stigma
- How to build a support system after a diagnosis
Check out the Something Positive for Positive People Podcast. Follow Courtney on Facebook, Instagram & Twitter.
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What Makes A Relationship Successful?
Do you believe in love at fight sight? What constitutes a good match that will last in the long run? Jess chats with Jeff and Carolyn on Global TV's The Morning Show to address and expand on these ideas. Check out her notes and video interview below!
Can you tell if a relationship will be successful from the onset? Is there such thing as love at first sight?
Love at first sight is a real thing for many of us, because love isn’t a difficult emotion to feel. But we have to differentiate between love the feeling and love the action. The former is easier to conjure than that latter is to enact in the long run. So you can feel loving toward someone, but not really be willing to commit to loving them long term when you consider all that a loving relationship entails — commitment, trust, vulnerability, intimacy, rejection, generosity, gratitude, patience and teamwork.
So if you’ve just met, how can you tell if you’re a good match?
If you’re on a first,...
Yoga Nidra, Rest & Sleep Habits: How They Affect Sex & Relationships
This week we explore the research that connects sleep and rest with sex and relationships. Dionne Roberts joins us as we discuss:
- How your sleep affects your connection and conflict
- How Yoga Nidra can be used to address sleep deprivation and improve relationships
- Sound baths
- How to reduce stress in the name of overall health and happier relationships
- How to let go of the mindsets that cause stress and hinder relaxation
Follow Dionne on Instagram, Facebook & Twitter. It's not too late to sign up for her Rest & Digest Virtual Retreat happening today! Check out her Youtube channel, and let her walk you through one of her Yoga Nidra practices below!
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Overcome Shame & Oppression in the Name of Self-Love & Pleasure
How does a survival mindset affect sexuality? How does history and oppression shape sexuality for Black women? How do you learn to love your body and give yourself permission to embrace pleasure? How do you really fall in love with yourself? How does code switching affect sex and relationships? How do we unlearn embedded messages that hold us back in life and in love?
Community Psychologist and Sexologist, Author and Professor Dr. Hareder McDowell joins us to share her experience and insights.
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G-Spots, G-Zones & Squirting
This is your ultimate guide to the G-Spot, G-Zone, ejaculation, squirting and more! We answer all of your questions including:
- Can everyone have a squirter orgasm?
- How do you learn to squirt?
- What is the G-Spot and what is the G-Zone?
- Is there a difference between squirting and ejaculation?
- What is a squirter orgasm?
- Can you ejaculate without having an orgasm?
- How can you stimulate the G-Zone?
- What are the best toys for G-Zone stimulation?
- What toys can help you to squirt?
- Does the volume of ejaculate relate to the intensity of the orgasm?
And much more!
To learn more about the products that can potentially stimulate the g-spot, check out the Womanizer Duo, the We-Vibe Rave, Crave's Flex Vibrator, and the We-Vibe Nova 2.
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What Kind of Dater Will You Be in 2021?
Jess chats with Carolyn and Jeff on Global TV's The Morning Show about what dating trends we can expect in the new year. To learn more about this, check out her notes and video interview below!
1. Like many things this year, much of the dating process has become virtual, what are your tips for developing and maintaining a relationship online?
Use video to take advantage of eye contact.
Include others in your video dates. Your friends affect the outcome of your relationships, so include them in your virtual dates. Host quiz nights, online board game events or talent shows so that your new partner feels as though they’re a part of your social circle.
Don’t talk solely about your day-to-day when you’re on the phone. Instead use conversation starters — cards and games — to dig into deeper conversations about your values, fear, dreams and aspirations.
2. One trend you’re seeing for the new year will be “hard-ball dating,” can you...
Former Playboy Advisor Weighs in on Full-Body Pleasure
After 46 years of writing about sexuality and the more than 12,000 sex questions answered, Michael Castleman is well positioned to weigh in on all things sex. He joins us to discuss his experience as the world’s most popular sex writer and together we address a buffet of questions including:
- What is sex like in your 70s?
- Why is full body pleasure so important?
- What were Brandon’s early sexual experiences?
- How can we master ejaculatory control and deal with premature ejaculation?
- What really makes a penis better in bed?
- What myths are destroying sex for men?
- What are the most common questions men (Playboy readers) had in the 90s?
- How do you spread arousal from head to toe?
- How do you replace genital focus with playfulness?
- What is sensate focus?
- How to get over penis preoccupation?
- Is sex addiction an industry or a diagnosis?
Check out Castleman’s upcoming book, Sizzling Sex for Life: Everything You Need to Know to Maximize Erotic Pleasure at Any Age. Follow...
