Cheating is more common than we’d like to admit, and the experience is shrouded in shame, which encourages those affected to manage their most difficult challenges and feelings in secret. This secrecy further reinforces feelings of shame, creating a burdensome loop that makes managing cheating a seemingly insurmountable task.

We need to break this cycle and talk about it, so this week, I invited your neighbours to share their questions about cheating so that we can open a dialogue and rebuild fulfilling, meaningful relationships.

Leslie from Midtown writes: How do Imove on and trust someone again after my ex cheated?

Permit yourself to feel sad, mad, scared, insecure, unsure, embarrassed, excited, hopeful and the full range of emotions we experience after a breakup. Breakups involve a period of grieving, and the feelings of loss are not necessarily attenuated by the fact that your ex was imperfect (or worse). You can be relieved to be rid of them and still miss some of the...

Every day, I receive sex and relationship questions on every platform you can think of. Questions and answers range from the simple (Am I gay if I like anal sex? Of course not.) to 10-paragraph essays outlining detailed relationship issues that span decades and originated before I was born.

From teens to seniors, sex gets people talking and leaves us feeling intensely curious. It can be difficult to manage the volume of questions I receive and even more challenging to answer complex issues in shorthand. I’m rarely able to give a question the time and thoughtfulness it deserves, but since I started the Sex With Dr. Jess Podcast a few years ago, I’ve had the chance to answer hundreds of questions.

The following are questions from podcast listeners from Toronto and beyond.

What is a good position to have an orgasm for a woman?

Everyone is different, but you might want to try lying on your stomach with your hand underneath your pelvic bone so that you have something to...

Looking for the perfect holiday adult play date? If you're based in Los Angeles or the Southern Californian area, we may have the perfect party for you! Jess had a chance to interview adult entertainer and entrepreneur, Alina Ratuska. Alina will be hosting a "Naughty Santa Party"

 in Beverly Hills this Saturday (December 16th). Alina is the Creative Director for Sntcm nightclub and was just featured on Showtime's Naked Snctm. Check out her interview below!

1. You’re a woman organizing a sex party. Do you think that gives it some added credibility and legitimacy and makes it feel safer for women to attend?

I bring a woman's touch to the party, but I want the party to be fun for both men and women. I think I have something for everyone at my events. But yes, I am very sensitive to the needs and desires of women.

2. What makes your parties different than other traditional lifestyle parties?

My parties are fun, for open-minded couples and female guests. All...

Earlier this week, Jess hosted a Facebook Live broadcast in partnership with a cool new dating app, Zepeel. In the video below, she shares fun, practical and effective tips to make online dating more effective. Give it a watch and be sure to leave your top dating tips in the comments here.

Jess’ top tips summarized:

1. Creep your “competition”. Although fellow daters aren’t technically your competition, reading through profiles of similar daters (e.g. people of the same gender, age and region) will inspire you to craft a more effective profile. Questions to ask yourself: What do these profiles have in common? Do I want to avoid repetitive content (e.g. cliches)? What makes a profile stand out? How can I differentiate my profile?

2. Use your Twitter or Snap feed to populate your profile. It’s an accurate picture of your recent interests and activities. Share a few of your top tweets (without revealing your handle).

3. Ask your friends to write you a...

As the cold weather creeps in, you may enticed to stay at home under the covers all day. However, if you have a big date coming up or want to reignite the spark with your lover, impress them with a creative activity, rather than the inside of your apartment. I chatted with dating experts, Carmelia Ray and Deanna Cobden to get inspired with some great winter date ideas!

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I am trying to save some money for holiday gifts. What are some examples of economically-friendly dates you would suggest?

"Ice Skating is a classic but still very romantic. There’s something about holding hands while skating that can melt a girl’s heart. Don’t forget to bring along a thermos of Hot Chocolate to warm you, up after. Staying in can be fun too, light some candles, get a bottle of wine, add snacks, snuggle up under a blanket and have a winter themed movie marathon." - Deanna

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Trying to stay warm this season? What are some indoor date ideas you...

I met Elliott Chun, Best Buy Canada's Communication Manager, at Global Television's The Morning Show earlier this year and I've been hooked on his technology-based advice ever since. We tend to hear a great deal of bad news about how technology has the potential to destroy relationships, but I think we can all benefit from another perspective. Check out Elliott's take on the ways in which technology has the potential to bring us closer together.

1. Can you tell us a little bit about yourself and your experience in the tech world?

I was born and raised in Toronto and found my passion for electronics at a very young age. My parents were very school-first focused when I was growing up and against me owning video games like all the other kids I grew up with. So, I found a passion for sports, fashion and curiosity for technology at a young age. These are still relevant as an adult today where I still love all three, and really thrust myself into...

As a sexologist, I have one of the best jobs in the world. I am blessed to travel to far away lands, meet with fascinating people and share my adventures with a community of open minded friends. One of the best parts of my job involves working at clothing-optional, adult-only resorts like Desire Riviera Maya and Desire Pearl in Mexico.

Though I have a blast hosting retreats at these resorts, I know that many of my followers are perplexed by the idea of a clothing-optional, erotic-themed vacation. I receive hundreds of questions every month about what really goes down on the beach, at the pool, in the jacuzzi and even in the restaurants. It's clear that people are simultaneously nervous, enticed and sometimes misinformed about the experience, so I've gathered the most frequently asked questions below and asked real-life resort guests to help out with the answers. Enjoy and please feel free to be in touch if you have any other questions!

FAQ: Do I have to be naked? "No, there are a...

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FAQ: What should men do if they get an erection? "I cover up with a T shirt when tanning and yes it has happened to me. Its not acceptable to touch yourself so "down boy". However it's a consequence of being surrounded by beautiful people so it might give rise to an opportunity for you & your partner to go fool around." - Brian & Kath, Vancouver "Depends on how you got the erection, if it is for the right reasons, use it!! Otherwise, just excuse yourself discreetly. I don’t really think an erection will offend anyone!" - Jesse & Jenny, Mercersburg "Nothing to worry about! It happens to the best of us, and it is nothing to be embarrassed about. We recommend that you just roll over on your stomach for a while, or cover up with a towel until the “situation” subsides." - Desire Resorts

FAQ: Will we be encouraged to swing? "No, not at all. People are not pushy at all. Especially if they understand the lifestyle." - Brent &...

I’m a sexologist. I study sex: what people do and how they feel about it. It’s a tough job, but someone has got to do it.

At cocktail parties people are intrigued by my profession and I’m flooded with questions:

How did I get into sexology?

I started as a sexual health peer counsellor in undergrad and realized how much we all have to learn about sex.

Am I really into sex?

Oh yes.

Do I work with people with sexual dysfunctions?

Sometimes. But others with already-great sex lives come to sexologists for healthy enrichment strategies.

What’s it like to hear about people’s most personal secrets?

It’s fun, exciting, interesting and natural. Most importantly, it’s an ongoing learning process and I think I provide a valuable (and rare) outlet for discussing the vital subject of sex.

Does my husband know he’s a lucky guy?

Heck yeah. And I’m lucky too.

But what people really want to talk about are their own sex lives. They want...