Dr. Jess on Making Time for Intimacy in Your Relationship
This morning on Global TV's The Morning Show, Jess sat down with Carolyn and Jeff to address viewer questions about the lack of intimacy in their relationships. Check out the video segment and her advice below to learn more!
My wife does so much. Takes care of the kids (we have a newborn), takes care of the house, etc.. But she’s never in the mood for sex. It has been months. I want to talk to her, but don’t want to make her feel badly, because she’s doing such a great job.
The fact that you acknowledge all that she does is so important and sets the tone for a healthy relationship and a potentially fruitful conversation about sex. Having said that, before we jump into the conversation, I want to offer a reminder to convey this appreciation directly to your wife. Oftentimes, couples who get along well deal with a gratitude gap: you feel grateful and you function so well as a team that you forget to thank your partner for all that they do to...
How to Help Someone in an Abusive Relationship
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The toll of intimate partner violence struck close to home this week and with this weighing on her mind, Jess discusses nine strategies for supporting a loved one who is dealing with an abusive partner. This isn’t a private issue, it’s a public health crisis and we have to do more to protect those at risk.
Content warning: I will be talking about violence and the death of someone in my community.
I will be reading some of the details of a recent death, so if you don’t feel comfortable hearing about intimate partner violence and death, please stop this podcast now. This may not be for you.
Last weekend Dr. Amie Harwick, a marriage and family therapist who focused on relationships and sex was killed. She was killed in her home and was found below a third floor balcony with evidence of manual strangulation according to news reports. Her ex has been charged with murder.
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Orgasmic Meditation: A First-Hand Report
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Sex writer, Suzannah Weiss, joins Jess to share her personal experience with orgasmic meditation. She discusses:
- An alternative view of orgasm
- The very specific technique for “orgasmic meditation"
- The story of her first time with a stranger
- The high she gets from "extended orgasm"
- Her favourite sex club
- Advice for sex club newbies
Follow Suzannah on Instagram & Twitter.
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Sexuality Superheroes: Fatima Mechtab
Say hello to our first Sexuality Superhero of 2020! Meet Fatima Mechtab. Fatima is the Marketing Director and Event Producer for Oasis Aqualounge, but beyond that she does so much more the sex-positive community. Read Fatima's feature below and get to know her a little better...
How did you find yourself working in sexuality?
From early on, I knew I was not going to be on a traditional career path and for most of my life, Sexuality was always something that I was very open and curious about. I came out as gay/bi, when I was a teenager and my personal politics were influenced through my University education in Women’s Studies, LGBTQ+ issues and Political Science.
I discovered my true passion through Event Management & Digital Marketing but struggled a bit on where I could apply those skills, knowing that a corporate environment was not the right fit for me. I tried more conventional routes with brief stints in trade show work, customer service roles, etc. but...
A Rant About Micro-Cheating
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This is a six minute quickie! And it’s a bit of a rant about micro-cheating. From deep-liking to chatting with an ex, what behaviours are considered cheating? And how do you deal with a partner whose behaviour is making you uncomfortable? Have a quickie listen today!
Behaviours that have been classified as micro-cheating include: using emoticons, liking too many photos on an account, “deep liking” online (liking old photos), posting sexy selfies, having friends of the gender(s) to which you’re attracted, and having private DM conversations.
I think this is absurd. What specifically constitutes cheating is subjective, but the micro-cheating expectations set some very narrow guidelines that simply are not realistic. In fact, some of these expectations are rooted in control, possession and monitoring that sets off some red flags with the potential to undermine respect,...
How to Manage Infidelity As A Couple
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George’s wife cheated on him — twice. He still remembers the smell of the room they were in when she told him 13+ years ago. George joins us to share his story of how worked through the infidelity and continue to grow as a couple. He shares his struggles, lessons learned and the ways in which his community supported them through the process. Many years later, they’re together and thriving just as they did in the early years of their relationship.
Please see a rough transcript of this episode below.
Brandon: Welcome to the @SexWithDrJess Podcast. I’m your co-host Brandon Ware here with my lovely partner, Dr. Jess
Jess: Today we’re going to be talking about infidelity and moving forward after an affair.
In the past, we’ve talked about the fact that there are many ways in which you can hurt your partner. There are many means through which you...
How Meghan & Harry Can Attenuate The “Romeo & Juliet” Effect
Meghan and Harry are stepping away from the Royal Family and moving to Canada (at least part-time). In light of the family’s disapproval, how can they ensure that they safeguard their relationship and respond to family disappointment? Jess sat down with Carolyn and Jeff to discuss parental disapproval earlier today on The Morning Show.
Check out the video and notes below.
How to handle disappointing your parents (or in this case, your grandparents)?
JODO — I learned about JODO from Adam Maurer from @MoonTower_Counseling. JODO stands for the joy of disappointing others. It isn’t about being a rebel without a cause; it’s essential to:
- Setting boundaries and realistic expectations.
- Managing personality differences in relationships
- Expressing your needs and emotions in healthy ways.
In relationships research, there are a few theories that relate to outside sources of (dis)approval affecting the outcome of your...
Kink, Energy Orgasms & Multi-Dimensional Body Scans
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Evguenia joins Jess & Brandon to share her personal experience with kink play, polyamory, and energy orgasms. She shares a short erotic story (The Decadent Play Party) from her book, Alice in Polyland and walks Jess & Brandon through a multi-dimensional body scan.
As it was referenced on the podcast, check out Evguenia's free Healing Body Scan Exercise here.
Follow Evguenia on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter & Youtube.
If you’ve got questions or topic suggestions for the podcast, submit them here. As well, you can now record your messages for us! Please record your message/question in a quiet room and use your phone’s headphones with a built-in mic if possible.
And be sure to subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music & Stitcher!
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Amazing Anal & Prostate Play
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Author & Sex Educator Carlyle Jansen joins us to discuss anal sex, prostate pleasure and sex toys. Carlyle shares her insights and tips regarding:
- How to stimulate the perineal sponge
- The best toys for prostate pleasure
- The importance of butt plugs for anal sphincter relaxation
- Why you want to have Goldilocks poops
- The water-bottle butt technique
- The clock technique for the prostate
- The importance of your knuckles when it comes to your butt
- The relationship between “rest & digest” and pleasure
Be sure to catch "Conversations for Couples: Passion, Intimacy, Sex & More" with Jess & Brandon at Good For Her in Toronto on January 27th, 2020! Get your tickets here.
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To learn more about anal play, listen to Episode 72, "All...
Specific Strategies for Talking to Teens About Sex, Sexting & More
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Author and sex education expert, Dr. Karen Rayne is a wealth of information and has developed specific and actionable strategies to help you talk to your kids and teens about sex and other difficult topics. In this episode, Karen and Jess discuss:
- How to talk to teens about breakups, sex, sexting, risk-taking
- The “one question” rule to revolutionize conversations about sex
- Specific “rules” for talking to teens
- 10 steps to break the “hush factor” when it comes to sex
- The benefits of considering yourself a “contractor” when it comes to your teen
- How to ensure that your child/teen feel supported and come to you during times of need, distress and crisis
- Sexting - essential rules, approaches and considerations
- How to stay cool when your teen is riling you up
- Considerations related to how much space and autonomy to give your teen
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