I often get asked what do energetic orgasms feel like and how do you achieve one? My very first energetic orgasm was an ecstatic experience to say the least…Want to know how it went? Here’s a little glimpse into this story:

“… All of a sudden, her body started moving of its own accord. It scared her. A sexual wave, a strong involuntary movement ran through her body. Another. And the Next.

“What is happening to me?” she asked him. He smiled. She could clearly see that he was not touching her. Tracey was intently looking at her vulva and moving his hands a few inches above it without physically stimulating her. As he later told her, he was playing with her energy field, pleasuring her with the power of his focused intention. But at the moment, she was completely puzzled as to what was taking place…

Her body kept on convulsing and feeling intense waves of beautiful energy explosions rising from her Root chakra at the base of the spine,...

Anal sex is the new black! Perhaps that’s a bit of an exaggeration, but there is no denying that it is a hot topic for both men and women. Recent research indicates that anal sex is on the rise with up to 46 percent of women reporting that they’ve indulged in some sizzling back-door play.

Whether you’re feeling a bit hesitant or excited to dive right in, be sure to read through this list of tips in its entirety before experimenting with each strategy, as each one builds upon the former.

1. Get to know your bum

Your anus is a thing of wonder! Really!

With two sphincter muscles (ring-like structures), rich nerve endings and a highly responsive pucker (AKA bum hole), your butt is worth becoming acquainted with -- especially if you’re going to let a partner in on the action.

While masturbating or showering, try sliding a lubed up pinky finger inside and allowing your sphincter muscles to contract and relax as you breathe deeply.

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2. Do it yourself first...

S-E-X! It may be good for your heart, great for your mood and even work wonders on your skin, but not all types offer the same benefits. Sometimes sex can make a bad situation worse and leave you wishing you hadn’t wasted your good underwear & clean sheets on a brief fling with sexual mediocrity.

If you find yourself enticed by these five types of sex, you may want to take a moment to reconsider. And if you’re still tempted, at least consider the laundry!

It may seem appealing to take one last ride on that pony for old time’s sake, but the consequences will likely outweigh the benefits. You’re breaking up, which means something isn’t working. And even if sex isn’t the cause of your break-up, it can complicate an already delicate situation.

For instance, it’s easy for your partner to misconstrue your intentions. When it comes to break-up sex, you don’t want your “It has been a pleasure...

Whether you’re single, dating, married or divorced, the holidays are supposed to be a time to celebrate with the ones you love. However, it is not uncommon for the stress of the busy season to take a toll on your relationships. The pressure of buying gifts, entertaining and balancing family responsibilities can turn the cheeriest elf into one miserable scrooge. Don’t let holiday stress destroy the relationship you’ve worked so hard on all year long!

Read through these top tips for maintaining happy, healthy relationships during the festive season:

Share the Love

Money can buy you happiness...as long as you’re giving it away. Research shows that spending on others, volunteering, and supporting charities can actually improve your well-being and boost your happiness. What a perfect win-win scenario!

Choose your favourite charity and collaborate with loved ones to donate a few hours or dollars to brighten the holiday season for those in need. Banding...

Porn may forever be connected to a number of social evils including marriage breakdown, sex addiction and the objectification of women, but there are upsides to consuming porn alone or as a couple.

In fact, experts and couples alike acknowledge that watching sexy videos together can have a positive impact on their sex lives. Several studies have even found that duos who consume pornography report higher levels of sexual knowledge and improved sexual satisfaction. And while mainstream porn offers little educational value (they’re actors and sexual superstars after all), it certainly inspires exploration, provides titillation and may even open the lines of communication in and out of the bedroom...

Check out the ways in which porn may have a positive impact on your relationship:

Porn Can Help Put You in the Mood

After a long day at work followed by a “nightcap” of meal preparation, laundry and a frustratingly drawn-out bath and bedtime routine, sex is often the last...

The landscape of sex has changed since we were kids with sexting, mobile porn, and social media shaping the way young people learn about sex. Research suggests that it's not uncommon to be inadvertently exposed to pornography online and the age of first contact with adult material may be as young as 13.

With explicit content at their fingertips, talking to our children about sex and porn is more important than ever. And as uncomfortable as a conversation about porn may be, there is no avoiding it if we want to support our children in developing healthy attitudes toward intimacy, sexuality, and relationships. While there is no perfect formula for addressing such a sensitive and subjective topic, we have a few tips for making the conversation count:

1. Ask questions without judgment.

Parents often wonder how to start a conversation about sex and it is common to have serious concerns with regard to exactly how much information they should reveal. One of the best ways to address...

This post is brought to you by The Taboo Shows. Join Kaleigh at the Calgary and Edmonton shows on November 9th-12th and 16th-19th. Seminars are included with entry and you can save $5 by pre-purchasing tickets here. Come say hi to Kaleigh at the We-Vibe booth!

Have you heard of writer and sex educator, Kaleigh Trace? Time to get acquainted! Jess sat down with her to discuss her upcoming appearances at Calgary and Edmonton's Taboo Shows. She additionally provides some REAL sex advice and talks about her work in the sex education field. Read her interview below.

Why did you choose to pursue work in the field of sex education?

To be totally honest, it was sort of a fluke. I started working in sex education when I was 22 and got a job at an incredible education-based bookstore and sex shop called Venus Envy. I wanted that job because I was primarily excited about the books that the shop sold. But once I began working, I realized I much preferred talking to...

If you're familiar with my work, you already know that porn addiction is not a recognized disorder despite being a highly profitable industry. You also know that porn addiction has been rejected by the American Psychological Association for inclusion in the latest DSM and the porn addict label is iatrogenic -- that is, the diagnosis (in this case, the self-diagnosis) intensifies the symptoms. You also know that I believe that porn often functions as a scapegoat when people seek to avoid personal accountability and that I believe porn can be a healthy part of happy, loving relationships.

I also believe that discussing the language of "porn addiction" is important given its popularity and the prevalence of self-diagnosis. In the interview below, I speak with  Craig Perra, J.D. Certified Professional Coach and founder of The Mindful Habit® System, to learn more about his approach to porn addiction and the role of mindful masturbation.

Dr. Jess:...

Despite an increase in laws, restrictions and awareness campaigns aimed at preventing sexual violence against trick-or-treaters, data analysis research reveals that Halloween has no effect on sex crime rates. A study of child sex crime rates on October 31^st found that they do not differ from expected rates (based on time, seasonality, and weekday periodicity) and there is no increased rate in the days leading up to the celebration.

The study analyzed data from the National Incident-Base Reporting System from 1997 through 2005 and examined 67,045 nonfamilial sex crimes against children aged 12 years and less. Researchers also found that Halloween incidents do not reveal any unusual characteristics or patterns and findings were consistent across years both before and after the implementation of Halloween-based prevention strategies.

Based on concerns that Halloween presents an unusually high risk for sex-based crimes against children, several states, municipalities and parole...

Think your shiny red lipstick and cutesy bedroom voice are your secret weapons to take him over the edge and keep him coming back for more? You may just want to think again. While each man’s turn-ons and turn-offs are unique, we’ve compiled a list of some of the most common complaints we hear from men with regard to what leaves them feeling as though they’ve just taken an icy cold shower...shrinkage and all.

Poor Hygiene

Apparently weekly showers and brushing your teeth every second day just won’t cut it for the discerning men of the twenty-first century. Bad hygiene tops the list of sexual turn-offs with men complaining of bad breath, spiky stubble, and day-old cigarette smoke odor.

You don’t have to shave it all off or scrub your skin until it glistens (ouch!), but it is good practice to pay some attention to your hygiene and grooming habits once you’re in a long-term relationship. Think back to your early dates and the effort you put into...