Urologist, Dr. Denise Asafu-Ajei, joins us to answer your questions about erections:

• How can you prevent erectile dysfunction?
• How do you treat erectile issues?
• How do you know if erectile issues are psychological or physiological in nature?
• What can you do if you lose your erection?
• How do you manage anxiety to reduce negative feedback loops?

Dr. Denise Asafu-Adjei is a urologist with subspecialty training in sexual dysfunction and male infertility. She completed a Fellowship in Andrology at University of California Los Angeles (UCLA). She will be joining the Urology Department at Loyola University in Chicago as the Medical Director of Male Reproductive Medicine.

She completed her Urology residency at Columbia University Irving Medical Center and received her M.D. from the University of Michigan Medical School. She obtained an MPH in Health Policy and Management from the Harvard School of Public Health and a Bachelor of Science from Carnegie Mellon University.

In the future, she...

This podcast is brought to you by Feeld, a dating app for couples and singles where they're a pioneer in allowing couples to explore dating together as a pair. Feeld is for everyone from the experienced to the curious.

Jess & Brandon answer listener questions related to erection loss, anxiety, libido, social norms and how to start difficult conversations.

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Here is a sampling of the questions we address:

#1. My partner is able to get and retain a really bangin' erection and can reliably orgasm during any type of penile stimulation (hand jobs, oral, even just putting lube on my body and rubbing himself back and forth on me), but he quickly and consistently loses his erection during penetration. The only time he is able to maintain an erection during PIV sex is in roleplay situations where I'm pretending to be someone other than myself.

Logically I know...

In Part II of our threesome discussion, we share questions and prompts to consider before you have a threesome — for individuals and couples. We also share some of our listeners’ insights on threesomes and discuss couples’ privilege.

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Threesomes: Self-Questionnaire 

• Why do you want to have a threesome?
• Where did the idea of a threesome come from? How do you feel about this source?
• What benefits do you expect to derive from a threesome?
• What are the perceived risks/costs?
• With whom would you like to have a threesome? Do you know if they’re open to it?
• How might your relationship with your threesome mates change post-threesome?
• What excites you most about a...

Most people fantasize about threesomes, but not many people actually dive in. In part I of our Threesomes podcast, we dive into the data and get some practical advice from Justin Lehmiller who answers your questions including:

• How common are threesomes?
• What counts as a threesome?
• How does a threesome affect relationships for couples?
• Who is having threesomes?
• How do people find threesomes (e.g. through apps like Feeld)?
• What’s the appeal of threesomes?

Next week, we’ll dive into how to prep for a threesome with prompts, conversations and more!

Justin Lehmiller the Scientific Advisor to Feeld, and host of the Sex and Psychology Blog and Podcast. To stay up to date with The Kinsey Institute research fellow, follow his Instagram and Twitter!

Feeld is the first dating app for couples and singles. They're a pioneer in allowing couples to explore dating together as a pair -- from ethical non-monogamy to alternative relationships and everything in between. Feeld is...

Sydney Rae Chin joins us to share her personal experience as a closeted queer woman who grew up Chinese-American-Catholic. She shares some really valuable advice on how to navigate emotional consent and leaves us with tools for navigating boundaries and honouring our own values.

They dive deep into conversation around polyamory, monogamy, and coming out to their family answering these questions and more!

• Can you have monogamous relationships as a polyamorous person?
• Can polyamory & monogamy co-exist in a relationship?
• How do you cultivate emotional consent and communicate emotional boundaries?
• How do you come out to family — as polyamorous or queer?
• How do culture and gender intersect with experiences of polyamory?

To stay up to date with Sydney, check out her website and follow her on Instagram.

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Are you comfortable talking dirty? Do you feel silly trying new lines, approaches and scenarios? You’re not alone. Jess and Brandon share their struggles (while sharing a few laughs) and offer guidance & strategies for all types of dirty talk from sweet and romantic to naughty and kinky. They try out dozens of lines that you can practice on your own and share with a partner (or two!).

Want to learn more about dirty talk? Check out The Ultimate Guide to Seduction and Foreplay co-authored by Marla Renee Stewart.

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If you’ve got questions or topic suggestions for the podcast, submit them here. As well, you can now record your messages for us! Please record your message/question in a quiet room and use your phone’s headphones with a built-in mic if possible.

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Dr. Lexx is a phenomenal sex therapist, educator, and media consultant. The #CouplesClinician runs The Institute for Sexuality and Intimacy, LLC and is an Amazon best-selling author! She’s the coolest nerd you'll ever meet and she’s passionate about helping clients build, maintain, and perpetuate true intimacy with #shamefreesexed.

This week, Dr. Lexx joins us to talk about adipositivity & enmeshment in relationships. She shares insights on how to recognize enmeshed dynamics and strategies for managing enmeshment.

Follow Dr. Lexx's Instagram and Twitter . To learn more about the MUSICARES event Dr. Lexx will be moderating next week on the 16th, check out the information on her website at LexxSexDoc.com.

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If you’ve got questions or topic suggestions for...

On this week's podcast, Jess & Brandon discuss sexual compatibility and share their personal experiences while addressing these Qs:

• How do know know if you’re sexually compatible?
• What can you do if you’re not sexually compatible?
• What are the keys to sexual compatibility?
• What’s the difference between desire and identity?
• Should you break up if you’re not sexually compatible?
• How can you find middle ground if you’re not feeling compatible?

Jess & Brandon weigh in on these questions and much more! Plus we’ve got a sex toy give-away from Romp Toys, so be sure to tune in! And don't forget to check out our amazing sponsor Adam & Eve. They are offering 50% off almost any item including shipping with code DRJESS.

If you’ve got questions or topic suggestions for the podcast, submit them here. As well, you can now record your messages for us! Please record your message/question in a quiet room and use your phone’s headphones...

Backdoor play can be highly erotic, but it can also be uncomfortable if you don’t know how to prep and play. Surgeon and sexual health expert, Dr. Evan Goldstein, joins us to share his expertise so that you can enjoy even more pleasure — before, during and after anal sex. He answers a range of questions including:

• How can we make anal sex more pleasurable for first timers?
• What positions are best?
• Can anal sex stretch/damage the anus or rectum?
• What’s normal when it comes to poop?
• What is Future Method and how can it help with preparing for anal sex?
• What is anal training and why is it important?
• How can you facilitate relaxation before you start to play?
• What is the structure of the butt in terms of musculature and why is important to get to know your own butt?

Follow Dr. Goldstein's Instagram and check out Bespoke Surgical to learn more about his practice.

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Dr. Ali Mushtaq joins us to share his journey from a conservative upbringing to leather title holder and discusses how BDSM education can be more inclusive and justice-oriented. Some of the questions he covers includes:

• When and why is it important to talk about race in BDSM?
• How can we bring anti-oppression frameworks to kinky spaces?
• How do you walk to a partner about racial inequality?
• What is sexual racism and how does it cause harm — physically and emotionally?
• How do power dynamics develop in relation to erotic associations?

To learn more about Dr. Ali’s work, visit GettingWolfie.com

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Don't forget, for couples who are interested and would like to participate in a study with Couples and Sexual Health Lab, to check them out on Instagram for more information.

If you’ve got questions or topic suggestions for the podcast, submit them here. As well, you can now record your...