As a sexologist, I’ve attended my share of sex parties, sex clubs, sex resorts and orgies — it’s all in a day’s work! And I’ve learned so much from attending these events, as seeing real live sex in-the-flesh is a life-changer.

Observing real people engage in genuine connections — physical and emotional — changed the way I felt about sex, my body, pleasure and even aging.

I feel more confident in my skin having seen people of all ages and body types enjoying unfiltered pleasure.

I feel more comfortable with my body’s natural responses (and sometimes non-response), as I’ve seen that a very wide variety of acts and approaches can produce pleasure.

And I feel excited to continue to age, as I’ve spoken to hundreds of couples in their sixties and seventies who continue to experience meaningful connection and intense pleasure.

I was recently interviewed about orgies and sex parties and have included the notes from this interview...

This week's Sexuality Superhero is Ashley Cobb! Ashley conducts workshops and counselling sessions with women, ridding  them of their negative tendencies, while communicating how they can feel more comfortable in their own skin. Read her feature below!

How did you find yourself working in sexuality?

I have always wanted to work in the public health field. I went back to college to obtain a Health Promotions degree in the hopes of working with the HIV/AIDS crisis. However due to the fact that I was unable to find employment once I graduated I decided to create my own lane. Sex With Ashley first started out as a blog then eventually grew to what you see today.

What is the best part of the job?

The best part of my job is getting to help women to explore different aspects of their sexuality.

What is your most important piece of advice that has the potential to revolutionize relationships?

Communication is key! Communicate, communicate, communicate. Talk about...

Do you need one more reason to love S-E-X? Yeah. Me neither. But with our hectic social lives, demanding jobs and sometimes challenging families, sex often falls by the wayside. After all, loving sex and wanting sex enough to actually do something about it don’t always go hand in hand.

So if you’re looking for a few good reasons to make sex a priority, check out these surprising health benefits associated with sexual activity:

Sex may be anti-aging. Increased levels of oxytocin do more than turn your partner into an unresponsive snore-demon after a hot and heavy love-making session. This hormone also helps to calm the nerves, reduce stress and promote restful sleep -- each of these benefits is associated with higher energy levels, improved memory, elevated mood and longevity. May we live long, love longer and prosper! That’s how the saying goes, right?

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Sex can relieve pain. The hormonal changes in the body that accompany arousal and orgasm result in...

Jess was recently interviewed about her understanding and definition of sex-positivity. Check out her thoughts below and please add yours in the comments -- we know we can't possibly have covered every angle and we can all learn from the mind-hive.

1) What is sex-positivity?

Sex positivity involves an attitude and approach to sex that minimizes moral judgments and honours personal agency and preferences.

There are certainly differing definitions of sex-positivity. For example, some people claim to be sex positive, but their definition of moral sex is narrow — they may not sex workers and trans rights. In my opinion, this is not sex positivity — it’s selective sexual freedom.

My understanding of sex positivity includes respect, support and celebration of everything from abstinence to consensual non-monogamy and everything on the edges and in between. There are of course intersectional issues to consider when it comes to sexual agency —...

It’s that time of the week again! This week, our Sexuality Superhero is: Eliza Boquin. Eliza is a marriage and family therapist based in Houston, Texas. She combines the practice of traditional therapy with ancient energy healing, delivering effect results and happy clients. Check out her feature below.

How did you find yourself working in sexuality?

During internship, I found that supporting women who were healing from sexual abuse was challenging, but also really rewarding.  Helping them heal from trauma & shame was powerful!  I was also working with couples who were often struggling to connect sexually.  Grad school hadn’t prepared me to help support these challenges and I felt lost when working with them. I wanted to feel more competent, so I opted for sex therapy training at the University of Michigan.

What is the best part of the job?

I get to talk about sex all day! Ha! I’m only partially kidding.

Truly, helping people...

This week's Sexuality Superhero is: Reece Malone. Reece is a sexuality star, delivering a wealth of knowledge through his online courses and sexuality consulting. Whether its an individual or a couple, Reece is well-practised in issues dealing with intimacy, sexual satisfaction and so much more! Check out his feature below:

How did you find yourself working in sexuality?

In my youth I was curious about many aspects of culture and society, including sexuality. I didn’t receive any information about the “birds and the bees” from my parents and truly believed that babies came from storks. I also believed that dads can birth kittens and everyone had the capacity to birth a cute pet. At 8 years old, I began asking questions about different aspects of sexuality. A lot of questions. Unfortunately my questions were often met with negativity leaving me with a feeling that I asked something bad. Asking my parents about sex was off the table so I turned elsewhere to find...

Cuddling and other forms of physical touch are important in most relationships, as physical affection is one of the ways we express love, desire and commitment.

In North America, we tend to reserve most forms physical touch for those we love and many of us are touch-deprived. A study of 509 adults found that those who lack affection (and crave more physical affection) experience lower levels of happiness and higher levels of loneliness, depression, relationship satisfaction and stress.

Obviously cuddling is more important to some people — especially those who perceive physical affection as the ultimate form of loving expression. It is therefore essential to communicate your needs to your partner and be open to listening to theirs. Some of us express our love primarily with our words and others do so through physical touch.

To improve understanding of one another’s desires with regard to physical affection, you might want to consider asking and answering a few questions:

It's that time of week again! This week, our Sexuality Superhero is: Jet Setting Jasmine. Jasmine is a licensed clinical therapist and does amazing work as a fetish trainer. She's joined forces with King Noire to deliver effective hands-on workshops that emphasize a sensual approach to sexual wellness and education. Check it out!

How did you find yourself working in sexuality?

I am a licensed therapist and have always had an interest in how people-maintained intimacy and the importance of intimacy in the wake of challenging life experiences. I dedicated a great deal of my work to working with client’s with trauma experiences and intimacy post injury/illness and intimacy and caregiving. The other bulk of my sex work has centered around my own sexual exploration. I have taken my personal experiences and shared them openly for others to learn and see a woman with my background enjoying sexual freedoms; with hopes that they will too.

What is the best part of the...

There is no one-size-fits-all approach to relationships and what works for your parents, friends or neighbours may not work for you. There is, however, a wealth of research on relationship satisfaction and outcomes that may offer some insight into what you can do to increase your odds of making love last and creating a relationship that is healthy fulfilling and passionate.

Consider the following ingredients to create a relationship that works for you:

Laughter and playfulness.

Research shows that couples who laugh together often are the happiest — even if they fight often, the presence of laughter may help to attenuate the potentially negative impacts of fights. Neuroscientists and psychologists theorize that laughter might be an evolutionary mechanism to soothe anxiety and warn others that a perceived threat is, in fact, harmless. So if you can inject humour and playfulness into your daily routine and find reasons to laugh and lighten up during times of distress,...

I’ve just returned from my Canadian speaking tour with We-Vibe and I had the chance to connect with thousands of happy couples and open-minded singles who realize that investing in your relationship is the key to making is last.

In Edmonton, I received this question from a 34-year-old:

“Sometimes I don’t want to be touched. My girlfriend gets mad and says something is wrong with me. It’s not that I never want to be touched (we kiss, hug, have sex), there are just times when I’m not in the mood to be snuggled - especially right when I walk in after work. I need a few minutes to decompress. Is something wrong with me?”

I share a few thoughts below:

Just as some people crave touch constantly, others abhor it. Wherever you fall along the spectrum of desire of physical touch, you’re normal and have a right to ask for as little or as much touch as you’d like.

Some parents  — especially mothers who tend to bear a disproportionate...