In this episode, we chat about our own issues with food as a couple — fights from our past, lessons we’ve learned, and the ways in which individual and cultural differences influence our expectations. We also answer some listener questions including:

• How do I get over feelings of worthlessness related to my partner not having an orgasm?
• How do I get more comfortable with masturbation?
• How can I learn to orgasm without a toy?
• Is it normal to not enjoy clitoral stimulation?
• What is mindful masturbation?

If you’ve got questions for the podcast, please send them our way! And feel free to share your food fight (or harmony) stories as well.

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Do you talk about the role technology plays in your relationships — for better or worse? This week, we discuss some of the ways in which technology interferes with connection and explore an important conversation all couples (and singles!) can use to minimize technoference. We also discuss anxiety related to tech and the pandemic, share strategies to change the way we use technology, and answer a listener question about how to respond to a sticky situation with a new beau.

Consider these prompts to start this important conversation:

Technology 

1. How do you feel the use of tech devices affects your relationship? Be specific.
2. How do you feel about electronics in the bedroom or at the table (or elsewhere)?
3. How often do you want to be connected/disconnected?
4. Why are you drawn to your phone/device?
5. Would you like to reduce your use of technology when you’re together? If so, why?
6. How do you feel when your partner is on their phone in different...

Psychologist Dr. Gina Di Giulio joins us to discuss Covid anxiety, CBT, and the ways in which attachment styles affect our relationships. She walks us through the three dimensions of attachment theory as well as the four main styles of attachment. Jess and Brandon open up about their own irritability and frustrations and they discuss cognitive strategies to increase feelings of security. And on a totally separate note, Jess also weighs in on a listener question regarding how to ride like a pro!

Check out Dr. Gina's notes below...

Attachment theory: How we attach to other adults strongly corresponds to how we attach to others, especially our primary caregivers, as a child.

• Adults with different attachment styles will differ in terms of how they deal with emotional intimacy
• How they communicate in relationships, in terms of their needs and wants, how readily they are willing to consider others' as well
• How much they trust others, how vulnerable they're willing to be in relationships
...

Sexologist Ashely Cobb joins us to talk about her new program Hoe and Tell as well as to answer a ton of sex & relationship questions including:

• What is pegging?
• What sexual secrets are your friends and neighbours harbouring?
• How do I get my shy partner to make noise in bed?
• How do I introduce something new?
• Does everyone need lube?
• Can you get good sex ed on Tik Tok?
• How do you let go of sexual shame that is tied to religion?
• What are might-as-well relationships and what can we do about them?
• How to ditch pressures related to family and cultural expectations.
• Should a couple really operate as a unit?
• What questions should you ask before you get into a committed relationship?
• Is it okay to not like blow jobs?

Follow Ashley on Facebook, Instagram & Twitter. Also, check out Ashley's podcast, Hoe and Tell.

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We talk labia, penis size, public relationships, consensual non-monogamy and more with Taylor Nolan. Taylor is a psychotherapist who appeared on ABC's The Bachelor and Bachelor in Paradise. She hosts her own podcast and is recognized on social media for being outspoken and vulnerable on issues around  intersectional feminism, animal rescue, and mental and sexual health.

Follow Taylor on Instagram & Twitter. Check out Taylor's podcast, Let's Talk About It!

Here are a few notes on our discussion of labia...

Why are we so obsessed with the way our labia looks?

Because we have very few opportunities to see real naked bodies, we tend to draw our expectations from porn. But porn, as we know, is not generally representative of the general population. The bodies depicted tend to reflect one specific standard and oftentimes don’t align with what we see in ourselves. When it comes to how we view our labia, we may want to thicken, shorten, lengthen,...

How’s your penis doing? How’s your diet and how does it relate to the pleasure you experience? And how can you have better anal sex? Sexual Medicine fellow & LGBTQ advocate, Dr. Josh Gonzalez, MD, joins us to discuss arousal, orgasm, ejaculation, erection, pain and more. He shares his expertise and answers your questions including:

• What’s the best diet for your penis?
• How can you deal with painful ejaculation?
• What is a muted orgasm?
• How can you deal with delayed ejaculation?
• What are excitatory neurotransmitters?
• What is soft glans and what are your treatment options?
• What is Peyronie’s and how can it be treated?
• How do some antidepressants inhibit and help and harm sexual pleasure including orgasm and desire?

Follow Dr. Josh Gonzalez on Facebook, Twitter & Instagram. Check out his recent articles on the Astroglide blog here.

This podcast is brought to you by Cliovana. 

If you’ve got questions or topic suggestions for the podcast,...

• How to deal with feelings of rejection.
• What’s the real difference between truth and honesty.
• What to do when you or your lover lose their erection.
• Managing feelings related to weight gain and why more weight can mean more pleasure!
• How to get over fears of initiating sex.
• How to feel worthy of love, sex and pleasure without the pressure to “do more” in bed.

Follow Dr. Lexx on Instagram, Twitter & Facebook.

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Author and Astrologist Mecca Woods joins Jess and Brandon to weigh-in on whether or not you should consider your Zodiac sign in dating, and shares her insights on:

• The relational and sexual strengths of each Zodiac sign
• How air, earth, water and fire signs differ from one another
• How we can benefit from embracing elements from all Astrological signs
• The areas you may want to work on according to your Zodiac sign
• How Astrology can support self-development
• Astrology as a motivational tool as opposed to a destiny-focused blueprint

Follow Mecca on Instagram, Twitter & Facebook. Also, check out her podcast: Stars On Fire

This podcast is brought to you by Cliovana. 

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Dr. Uchenna “UC” Ossai is a sex-positive pelvic health physical therapist and sexuality educator. She joins Jess & Brandon to discuss all things sex, pleasure, wellness and bourbon!

• How can pleasure mapping improve sexual communication and pleasure?
• How do you deal with a hypersensitive clitoris?
• How do you assess pelvic pain and endometriosis?
• How can therapists and other helping professionals take care of their own physical and mental health?
• What is vaginal stretching?
• How can we assess racism and oppression in healthcare?
• What are Bourbon Talez and what can you learn from them?

Follow Uchenna on Instagram, Facebook & Twitter.

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If you’ve got questions or topic suggestions for the podcast, submit them here. As well, you can now record your messages for us! Please record your message/question in a quiet room and use your phone’s headphones with a built-in mic if possible.

And be sure to...

We’re joined by pelvic health physiotherapist, Michiko Caringal, who answers all of our questions about how the pelvic floor affects sexual health including:

• Why might ejaculation be painful?
• How do you address delayed ejaculation?
• Why do penises require pelvic floor therapy?
• Can my vagina fall out?
• Why is pelvic floor therapy important for cis and trans folks alike?
• What does a pelvic floor consultation look like?
• Who might benefit from a rectal exam?
• How can we improve patient experience to ensure more active vs. passive care?
• How do you clean your vulva and vagina?
• What does it mean to “release the tailbone”?
• How is back pain related to pelvic health and how can posture affect pelvic floor health?

Follow Michiko on Instagram & Facebook.

This podcast is brought to you by Cliovana. 

If you’ve got questions or topic suggestions for the podcast, submit them here. As well, you can now record your messages for us! Please record your...