The Impact of Sexual Fantasies

A mind is a terrible thing to waste – especially when it comes to sex. The brain is not usually what comes to mind when we think about sex organs, but it has the potential to be our most powerful tool for accessing mind-blowing sex.

From a physiological standpoint, the mind controls our sexual response through its interplay with and interpretation of the autonomic nervous system. This system controls involuntary sexual responses and induces relaxation and arousal. But enough about the science of it…

Our minds allow us to fantasize about anything – even the impossible or seemingly unattainable. And fantasies are healthy and normal. A good fantasy can be better than physical sex because we’re in control of every last detail and can force events to play out perfectly to our liking. Unlike physical sex, which can be interrupted by a phone call, kids, parents or the Avon lady calling, fantasy sex occurs within the vacuum of the mind. We choose our fantasy partners, locales and sexual activities at will and can change our minds as we go without penalty.

via GIPHY

Don’t be overly concerned about the content of your fantasies. All types of fantasies are healthy as long as you can separate them from reality and accept (and sometimes appreciate) that you may not be able to fulfill them. For many, a fantasy in mind is even better than a fantasy fulfilled, as reality creates potential for a letdown. Trust me on this one.

When you’re tired but horny and still want to be a decent sexual partner, you can let your mind (and vocal cords) do all the work. If you’re too exhausted to wriggle around, let alone try out that new twist-and-shout move, you can use your words to titillate your partners to the point of no return. Once you learn about their fantasies, sex for the lazy (or tired) gets easier. You can tell them about how you thought of them and got wet/hard earlier that day or about all the men and/or women you’d like to see them with. You can describe these fantasy partners in minute detail to reel your partners in without physically tiring yourself out. For the tamer, consider telling them that you saw a guy/girl checking them out and it made you want them even more or describe a location and situation in which you’d love to cater to their every sexual need.

This blog post continues here.