Swinging Advice from the Cast of Playboy TV's "Swing" Part 1

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As the host of PlayboyTV’s Swing, I have the unique and humbling experience of working with couples who are willing to share the most intimate details of their relationships. The cast of the show is comprised of couples from all corners of the country who take a non-traditional approach to happily ever after: they identify as Swingers who open their relationships up to consensual extramarital sexual encounters. Though couples who swing face their regular share of challenges (every marriage is hard work!), many believe that the communication and openness required to navigate the Lifestyle deepens their connection, intensifies intimacy and leads to a lasting erotic connection. Swinging certainly isn’t for everyone, but almost everyone is intrigued by this alternative arrangement and I receive hundreds of questions related to the lifestyle every year. Since the cast of PlayboyTV’s Swing is comprised of experienced “expert” couples, I asked them to weigh in on some frequently asked questions.

How do you know if you’re ready to swing?

Christopher and Maribel (pictured left): You never really know when you're ready. You may think you're ok with everything and then it happens and your emotions go into overdrive and you're in a fit of jealous rage. Communication is definitely the key. We've met couples who've jumped in with both feet and full swapped as their first introduction to the Lifestyle (LS) and it's worked out well for them. We've also met couples who went to a LS meet and greet, which is pretty much as safe as you can get in the lifestyle and were completely turned off to the idea. I honestly feel as though communication is the best ammunition, however you never really know what you'll be ok with and what you won’t.

Kimberly and Michael: Sometimes knowing you are ready takes baby steps. Just like any life decision, take one step at a time and if at any time it does not feel right, stop and communicate. I think the number one key to being ready is to have talked extensively with the person you are embarking on the lifestyle with. We talked and talked, and then decided, for us, the moment of truth would ultimately be looking into each others eyes at key moments and communicating about those feelings that come up unexpectedly. When with couples new to the LS we always make sure they have room to communicate at any time.

How do you communicate boundaries in the Lifestyle?

Janel (and Stephens): When it comes to communicating boundaries and expectations, I generally go for the most unsexy phrase of "Stevens and I were just tested in February. It's so important to us to know our status, how about you?" And "I like to call the Lifestyle outsourcing. I am allergic to pain so if you like to be spanked let me introduce you to my boyfriend." For some reason people appreciate my bluntness:)

Nikki and Daniel: Communicating boundaries is easy when you ask about the other couples boundaries first. It allows you to explore how they conduct themselves and provides them opportunities to open up as well as ask you your boundaries.

Chad and Letisha: Boundaries are up front and there's no gray area. We aren't passive aggressive in our rules and we don't want you to be either. Letisha enjoys spanking and a guy who takes the lead but don't even think of putting your hands near her neck. We're here to bang, not asphyxiate each other. ;-)

Part 2 Continued here...